english7
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for spousal support and equitable distribution was last Tuesday. It lasted much longer than it was supposed to b/c both lawyers kept raising objections. The judge got angry at them and called a recess.
I was on the stand 3 times getting hammered by ex's lawyer, but I held up well. Ex was only up once and the judge yelled at him twice for speaking when he wasn't supposed to.
After the recess, the judge gave us only 5 minutes to finish. He would not make a decision at that time. He wants to think it over.
It looks like I will get more than even I hoped for--but we will see. I could be way wrong. We asked for a lump sum of 53,000. Of course we know that won't happen (13-month marriage), but I think I'll get enough to take 3 or 4 courses to help me meet the new teaching requirements.
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gr8Dad
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You were married for 13 months and you are asking for alimony? Please tell me that was a typo or I misunderstood.
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english7
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It is for the temporary spousal support that he did not pay me for over 2 years. It is not for anything past the final divorce decree. When we went in to ask for that, the judge continued it (twice) b/c ex was deployed. As it turns out, ex took a nice vacation to go diving in Guam at the time we asked for it, so he could have taken a couple of days to take care of his financial responsibilities. The only way we knew that is b/c I demanded to see all his discovery documents and b/c he posted his vacation pics on fb. Anyways, the spousal support is for the time when he did not give it to me before we got to the dissolution of the marriage.
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gr8Dad
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Okay, but you were married for THIRTEEN MONTHS, what kind of loss of income could you POSSIBLY be suffering from in 13 months?
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english7
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I don't think it has much to do with a loss in income. But, I was homeless with no furniture other than a mattress on a disgusting floor for several months after fleeing domestic assault. No job. I began looking for a position by using the public library ASAP. With no clothes, no winter coat, I used a credit card to travel to interviews.
I found that the minimum requirements had changed for my position, so I applied to every low-wage job I could with no luck. They wouldn't even reply to me.
I'm not sure what you mean by "what kind of loss of income could you POSSIBLY be suffering from in 13 months?" I had NO income. I moved from VA to NY to get away from him. I had no income.
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gr8Dad
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Alimony is intended for a spouse that suffered a loss of income potential while being married to the person they were married to.
"I found that the minimum requirements had changed for my position"
In THIRTEEN MONTHS, they changed SO drastically that you needed TWO YEARS of alimony to get by? WTF? What did the OTHER people who were WORKING the job do? I mean if it took TWO YEARS to catch up with changes over THIRTEEN MONTHS, they should have been out of work as well, right?
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spinnerdegrassi
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Sh!t, if she can get alimony for 13 months, imagine how much I can get for being married 10 years and actually doing things to help further my wife's career over that time frame.
Oh wait, I'm a guy and we never get alimony because we're actually expected to support ourselves regardless of the circumstances.
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english7
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No, Gr8. This is pendente lite support. It is support paid to the spouse in need while the divorce is pending. I was denied that.
The requirements did not change so drastically in thirteen months. Bear with me. When I got my degree back in 98, I was able to get a job fairly quickly with my academic background. The requirements have changed, as I detailed to the judge. He understood.
If I were still teaching at my old job (the one I gave up to move to VA with my new husband) I would still be there making good money. I was tenured. I was set. I did not know when I left that the requirements had changed b/c I had not been job searching.
I also did not know my ex would turn out to be an abusive a$$hole. I trusted him. I gave up my career for him.
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english7
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Hehehe, Spinner. The judge hasn't decided yet--or if he has, he hasn't shared it.
It will be interesting to see how he decides. I'll let folks in here know b/c there are plenty of military divorce questions that come up.
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gr8Dad
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"This is pendente lite support. It is support paid to the spouse in need while the divorce is pending."
Complete BS. You could have lived on base until the divorce was final, so no rent or utilities. But because you chose to run away, he gets to pay for it. And lemme guess, NO Police reports os arrests for the abuse, huh?
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