finz
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There were no other towns in Virginia ? None ? If I wanted a divorce ASAP, I wouldn't have moved out of state.
You are saying the police refused to arrest him for violating the RO ?
You couldn't call Capital One before you left, when things were going downhill and get more credit which would also be based on his salary?
You couldn't have stayed in the house with new locks and an RO ? You're that positive he would jeapordize his whole military career by doing something like approaching the house or your job ?
Did you not have a winter coat from your years of teaching in NY ? If you charged some more clothes, you could have gotten the free lawyer and a shelter, right ?
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gr8Dad
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You are SO full of it. Do you think NONE of us have EVER had crazy ex's?
"He came to my place of employment repeatedly, azzhole, looking for me, as I knew he would."
Okay, so a MILITARY OFFICER came to the SCHOOL you were teaching at, for NO reason, and you QUIT because of it? DUH!
"The police told me not to go there again."
The police told you not to go to your JOB, because your stbx was showing up? WTF is wrong with you, call the SHERIFF, if that fails, call the FBI. But, honestly, I don't believe for a second that the police told you not to go to your JOB, and continued to allow him to go about his business.
"So, you really think I should have stayed in the area, kept my job (part time) and just waited (as bait) for him to come looking for me, angry as h3ll b/c I had him arrested?"
Yep, and you call the cops EVERY TIME he shows up. Eventually, they WILL get tired of it happening, or then you go to the news with your evidence.
"I wanted to stop the fear and looking over my shoulder for him to come after me."
And you are SO afraid of him that you are EXTENDING the divorce proceedings to get an extra $50,000 out of him? You are claiming he STALKED you CONSTANTLY for having him ARRESTED, what do you think he will do if he has to hand you 50 grand?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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english7
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I will continue this fruitless conversation tomorrow.
If anyone with any sense can come in and add something, I would appreciate it.
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finz
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[quote]I will continue this fruitless conversation tomorrow. [/quote]
lol
If you needed anymore proof that you should step back and re-examine your thought process on this.....there it is !
Read my sig......
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elliesmom
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I stayed out of this (not because as gr8dad implied I am "afraid") but because when you first came here you did not like what Miranda and I were telling you.
Your marriage was too short for you to get anything that even resembles what you are asking for. Bad behavior on his part doesn't not mean money for you. That his bad behavior made your decisions go from "risky" to "very Bad idea" does not equal compensation for you.
You should get (and even this is a MAYBE because the marriage was so short) a little bit of money to help you get on your feet. Like maybe 5k to pay for your move and deposit on a rental. You weren't out of the workforce - at all - it sounds so I doubt you will get any equalization in income. You taught in NY, you taught in VA, and now you are teaching in NY again. Changes in income can easily be attributed to changes in the economy. They aren't going to force him to compensate you for that.
If you in fact invested in a new roof for his home - what ever value the home increased during that 13 month time you deserve half of. Of course you will have to hire an appraiser to determine what the value was before and then 13 months after. Unfortunately with the housing collapse - your investment may be worthless.
And frankly - no judge is going to find your fear of him believable when you have pursued him legally this hard. Most people want OUT. I will not argue the validity of that with you - I accept that what you say is true. But to a bystander - I will tell you it seems suspicious. And that is exactly who you have to convince. But we shall see. I can't imagine a judge reversing himself ordering retro temp support. They just don't do that.
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english7
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You don't know what I "should get." You don't have all the facts. The judge does. There is quite a bit in equitable distribution of property that is part of the 50k everybody in here says is for alimony.The judge wanted what he called my "sweat equity" included for all the work I did on his house, despite what ex's lawyer said.
"And frankly - no judge is going to find your fear of him believable when you have pursued him legally this hard. "
Frankly, em, he was the one who pursued me legally throughout this. I am the defendant. So as I said before, you don't have all the facts.
"But to a bystander - I will tell you it seems suspicious."
Well I had loads of proof to show the judge. The police report, pictures, names of those who helped, letters, etc.
"I can't imagine a judge reversing himself ordering retro temp support. They just don't do that."
Again, you don't know what you're talking about. The judge never heard it the first time! There is no reversing being considered.
It would not surprise me in the least for the judge to decide in favor of the plaintiff as far as retro temp. support goes. It's a strange situation, very. And as I said, my lawyer told me that judge rules in favor of "the military guy" and not in favor of "women."
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english7
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"Okay, so a MILITARY OFFICER came to the SCHOOL you were teaching at, for NO reason, and you QUIT because of it? DUH!"
What are you talking about? You are imagining stuff again, filling in the blanks to build your ridiculous argument.
"And you are SO afraid of him that you are EXTENDING the divorce proceedings to get an extra $50,000 out of him? You are claiming he STALKED you CONSTANTLY for having him ARRESTED, what do you think he will do if he has to hand you 50 grand?"
I'm not EXTENDING it. I never said he STALKED me CONSTANTLY. You said that. If he can find me, who knows what he will do. Money means more to him than anything else. He wanted me to pay him!
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hanzblinx
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[quote] Money means more to him than anything else. [/quote]
If that was true why would he get married to you? That makes no business sense to marry a financial parasite if money means everything. If it meant anything at all to him he would have demanded a prenup, and been more careful to avoid gold diggers.
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english7
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If he thought I was a gold digger, he wouldn't have married me. He knew I wasn't. He was the only gold digger in the relationship.
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hanzblinx
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[quote]He knew I wasn't. [/quote]
bwahahahahahaha!
denial is not just a river than runs in Egypt lady
so if he would have asked you before marriage how much alimony you would demand from him would you have been honest? Would you have told him 50K per year of marriage is what you would take him for?
No this is what you'd say "Honey I am not like those other women, I wouldn't think of taking money from you, how could you even think that of me? I am so independent and hard working, and self made woman"
utterly disgusting how women brag about being self made and independent then show up in court like helpless, weak, hopeless little children sucking on the tit of the ex husband for sustenance.
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