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sgaylert
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living with soon to be ex and children
      #710858 - 12/02/10 05:22 PM

My wife and I are planning a divorce, still reside together in our marital home with our children, boys ages 11 & 13. She has brought her boyfriend of 3 months into our home while I and the boys have been away, and now wants to bring him here with my knowledge. Is there any way I can legally prevent this? As Tenants in Entirety? Help, I do not want him here. Let her have him over to her own place when the house is sold.

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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: sgaylert]
      #711353 - 12/04/10 05:55 PM

Get an lawyer now or at least talk to one to find out what your rights are.

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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: Buckeye]
      #711380 - 12/04/10 08:18 PM

I have one. She has advised me that as long as my wife has invited him to the property he is permitted to be there. I counter that saying that tenants in entirety entitles me to enjoy peace in my own home, but so does she. I would have to call the police if I find him here and at least get it on record, then file a restraining order and have it heard by a judge who would then interpret the law of tenants in entirety. My contention in that besides being morally corrupt in her actions, what will my pre-teen sons think when they see their mother with another man in the family home they have only known with the two of us.

Use to think my wife was the best thing that happened to me. Her actions and words over the last 9 weeks has not only been eye opening, but crushing.


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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: sgaylert]
      #712414 - 12/08/10 07:57 AM

I think your lawyer needs to file for divorce and full custody. I would argue that the best interest of the kids are with you and not with someone who brings the boyfriend into the martial home where everyone is currently residing and living there too.

seriously - your wife thinks it is okay for the kids, you, her and new edition to be one big happy family....?


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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: matart1]
      #712861 - 12/09/10 09:34 AM

This isn't legal advice, just what I *think* I'd do in that situation - I'd leave the marital home AND TAKE THE BOYS WITH YOU and set up residence elsewhere. If you can't get her to leave now, you're probably going to be living some place else after the divorce is final anyway.

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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: Avaya]
      #713340 - 12/10/10 09:08 PM

Quote:

This isn't legal advice, just what I *think* I'd do in that situation - I'd leave the marital home AND TAKE THE BOYS WITH YOU and set up residence elsewhere. If you can't get her to leave now, you're probably going to be living some place else after the divorce is final anyway.




I usually don't agree with this tactic, but in your case your wife is creating a hostile living environment. I can forsee her calling the cops on you and having you hemmed up in the legal system with a domestic charge. it happens all the time.

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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: sgaylert]
      #725238 - 01/18/11 01:24 PM

If you can't do anything about it, GO WITH IT! When he's over, sit in between them. If they go to bed together, crawl in inbetween them! Walk in on the guy in the bathroom. Get in the shower with him. Why not!??! He's in YOUR house.

It is, after all, your house too. If they try to lock you out of a room, you are entitled to unlock the door.

If he is cooking, get in his way.

And if he assults you...call the police and file charges.

Come on. Get creative and turn this around on her!

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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: 1966Gal]
      #725269 - 01/18/11 06:10 PM

lol......i like it

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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: 1966Gal]
      #725709 - 01/19/11 07:53 PM

I'll add to Gal's advice by saying you should find out if your state is a one party recording state. If it is, I'd blatantly whip out the video camera every time she brings him in the house.

They'll either get aggravated and leave, or get pissed and give you hell. Which you'll have on tape.

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Re: living with soon to be ex and children [Re: 1966Gal]
      #725719 - 01/19/11 08:45 PM

"If you can't do anything about it, GO WITH IT! When he's over, sit in between them. If they go to bed together, crawl in inbetween them! Walk in on the guy in the bathroom. Get in the shower with him. Why not!??! He's in YOUR house. "

This is so funny, Gal. It should be in a movie.


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