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blueeyedgal
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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: CoachKarenB]
      #708709 - 11/22/10 05:27 PM

Wow... I do hope I just missed the joke intended in yreg's post.

To the original poster... yes, I lost friends as well as family in the divorce. It was quite hurtful. But you know what? It did clear some time in my schedule to add new friends. :-) Wishing you well. :-)


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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: blueeyedgal]
      #708715 - 11/22/10 05:52 PM

After further review of all the forums, I have a handle on the yg's character and also found my ignore button. lol So, no need to warn me further.

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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: yregna]
      #708855 - 11/23/10 10:12 AM

yregna: I just have to laugh at your comments! I didnt even mention money. You must have gottin burned in a divorce. Friends have tolded me that I should have brought him to his knees. I could have forced him to liquidate his business and didnt. So you have no right to say I raped him financially. Get your facts first!

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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: Kar1958]
      #709166 - 11/24/10 09:02 PM

yregna definitely sounds bitter and twisted lol - I've stumbled across a few posts and all were woman-hating put-downs of some sort or another. Dude, learn the lesson, forgive and move on or you're gonna be in that same headspace in 20 years. Unless of course you like it that way. I'm thankful I never got to the "angry professional victim" stage.

@Kar1958, I have had a similar problem to you. The way I look at it, "joint" friends are like the ring and the wedding photos. Painful to look at - at first, then they become irrelevant. My ring ended up at the bottom of the Coral Sea, my wedding photos are ashes and the "joint" friends, a distant memory - my choice.

Good luck with your situation - "custody" of the friends can become complicated


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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: yregna]
      #709268 - 11/25/10 10:39 AM

YR, did i understand you correctly? That seemed like a very bitter comment to me. Could you explain further.???

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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: connie60]
      #709275 - 11/25/10 10:44 AM

Oh, Sorry,lol, i posted before i went to the second page. Oh well, some people are just bitter...

I have been in the same situation about the friends thing. With my first x, our friends actually acted like they where on my side so they could run back to him and tell him everything. Man, that really broke my heart.

Think about your future, its all yours to do with what you want. Like others have said, friends come and go. The secret is, be your own best friend, and you will never be hurt again. People will do what they do, and they will pay the price in the end when they are cruel to us.


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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: connie60]
      #709319 - 11/25/10 01:30 PM

This forum, group, whatever one want's to call it, should come with a disclaimer to ignore angery spelled backwards comment. He hates women and about once in 10 years will post something that could be considered helpful by some.

He is to be pitied and the best thing to do is just ignore him, his hatefulness, bitterness and anger. Sad thing is, he has kids that could be influenced by him. that is tragic IMO

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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: Karen1]
      #710447 - 12/01/10 09:35 AM

Karen, i totally agree with you!! I would think that the people in charge of this forum would take care of the situation. I am an advisor on another site, and that type of situation would be taken care of very quickly. We have enough thorns in our sides, we sure dont need any extra!!!!!

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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: connie60]
      #710450 - 12/01/10 09:37 AM

Angry, why are you so bitter???? Now, lets see if we get an answer...

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Re: Losing Friends in a Divorce [Re: CoachKarenB]
      #711995 - 12/06/10 08:53 PM

I'm just in the beginning parts of this whole process, but as soon as I knew he filed- I saw changes in my attitude. His friends ignored me, which is fine. But I've noticed he is trying to be all nice and friends with MY friends. Trying to persuade them, make them see his side. I asked him not to talk to my friends about personal things. Then I explained to my friends that if they allowed him to 'sway' then they don't need to be there for me anymore. I don't know if all that makes sense. You will find out who your true friends are.....i know I have!!!! Bes wishes!!!!

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