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ILMimi
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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: Miranda]
      #714068 - 12/14/10 07:02 AM

My lawyer said that I was looking at 15% of my gross, for life after a 19 year marriage. My ex settled for NO SS. But he did walk away with $170K equity in the house + $10K for extra debt + 18 months COBRA + 1/2 401K.

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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: elliesmom]
      #714088 - 12/14/10 08:57 AM

Perhaps not - but that is where I would want to start negotiating.

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I'd start the negotiations at 1/2, not at 1/3.

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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: googledad]
      #714161 - 12/14/10 10:58 AM

Maintenance is a foreign topic to me. My ex made 8 times what I did, and I never dreamed of asking for her hard earned money. That's hers. Since her income provided for the nice home, vehicles and other stuff we had, I felt more like I owed her for providing so well while married.

Reading here has really influenced me in quickly determining if my dates believe in alimony. If so, my view is so 100% the other way, it's a dealbreaker....as in there's no chance of the relationship going any further.


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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: DedicatedDad]
      #714189 - 12/14/10 11:41 AM

[quote]Maintenance is a foreign topic to me. My ex made 8 times what I did, and I never dreamed of asking for her hard earned money. That's hers. Since her income provided for the nice home, vehicles and other stuff we had, I felt more like I owed her for providing so well while married.

Reading here has really influenced me in quickly determining if my dates believe in alimony. If so, my view is so 100% the other way, it's a dealbreaker....as in there's no chance of the relationship going any further. [/quote]

Men have self respect. Women are natural born leeches. And agreed, any woman who has ever collected a nickel of alimony is not dating material. She has identified herself as a parasite.


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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: hanzblinx]
      #714221 - 12/14/10 12:29 PM

I do want to add I'm only middle age. I can see alimony in some cases, but not many. The women I go out with (30-40) should never be asking for it, nor should men. I can't imagine not standing on my own 2 feet.

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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: ILMimi]
      #714303 - 12/14/10 03:05 PM

COBRA is 36 months after a divorce. 18 months after termination of employment.

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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: Robert_Nowak]
      #715276 - 12/17/10 06:59 AM

COBRA is 18 months after termination and then can be expanded to another 18 months after divorce (2 qualifying events). I paid him for a total of 18 months. He never researched the issue nor asked for more time.

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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: SleeplessinNY]
      #715352 - 12/17/10 10:05 AM

You can go back through 300 postings, and you'll find the same thing over and over and over. Wives who have been married for more than 20 years ALWAYS HAVE HEALTH ISSUES THAT PREVENT THEM WORKING.

Pretty amazing statistics when you think about it...Is there some sort of chronic disease that infects women after 20 years of marriage ? And its a very specific disease because no matter what the symptoms, they always can't work, but they always outlive the husband.

How wierd is that ?

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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: SleeplessinNY]
      #715354 - 12/17/10 10:09 AM

Sleepless,
You are an absolutely disgusting example of a parasite female. You are lower than pond scum, hopefully your ex becomes enraged and murders you slowly.

Very slowly...

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Re: Maintenance in NY [Re: yregna]
      #715370 - 12/17/10 11:08 AM

[quote]You can go back through 300 postings, and you'll find the same thing over and over and over. Wives who have been married for more than 20 years ALWAYS HAVE HEALTH ISSUES THAT PREVENT THEM WORKING.

Pretty amazing statistics when you think about it...Is there some sort of chronic disease that infects women after 20 years of marriage ? And its a very specific disease because no matter what the symptoms, they always can't work, but they always outlive the husband.

How wierd is that ? [/quote]

My ex was 31 when she filed for divorce. She has a medical history of psychological disorders, but chose not to highlight that fact as a disability, because I was using it against her to get the kids. If not for the kids, you can bet she would have claimed mental disability and demanded lifetime alimony from age 31 to 85.

That's how women think.


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