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Sorry , arrearages can't be waived unless she agrees to it .
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Goodmom
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They have been separated for 12 years????? And he kept putting his paycheck in the joint account AFTER she pulled everything out of it?????
Well, he's in no hurry to get a divorce, now is he?
When someone wants a divorce, even with someone fighting it, it typically doesn't take 12 years to obtain.
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1966Gal
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Ditto. If they were seperated, why would he still have his money being put into a joint account? Even if he did, you'd think after the first time she took money out of it, he'd stop direct-depositing into that account.
They've been seperated for TWELVE YEARS, but no one ever filed for divorce until this week? How is it that CS was ordered when no divorce was ever filed?
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1966Gal
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Had I known how long he had been separated without a divorce prior to having my child I might not have stayed.
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You slept with and had a child with a man when you didn't even know how long he had been seperated?
Sorry, but what you are dealing with now are the consequences for YOUR actions and choices.
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1966Gal
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we would like is for the fraudulent arrears to be taken off, let her pay her own legal fees.
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What part of his arrears are fraudlent? You said that she took money out of their JOINT ACCOUNT. Any money in a JOINT account belongs as much to her as it does to him. You said that "every pay check" she would drain his account...and they he would still owe CS on top of that. Why did that happen after the first time? Something is very screwy here. If someone is draining my checking account against my will, I stop putting money into that account. They I formally write them a CS check so I don't go into arrears.
The fact that he allowed this to continue over and over and over again tells me, and probably the courts, that he was in agreement with it.
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Debi
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"He has not been able to afford to file divorce until just recently."
-----> He has not WANTED to file for divorce until recently. it doesn't take 12 years to be able to file for divorce even if you have to do it Pro Se.
Their mother lied when she filed for child support, saying that he wasn't supporting his kids (but they had a joint account that she would empty every one of his paydays...and we can pull the bank statements on that one).
-----> If they are married it's her money too. I'm sure he has bank statements but she probably has records showing she was paying house hold bills and taking care of the kids with that money. Even if she was spending it on herself they ARE MARRIED. There is nothing legally dishonest about that. Apparently he did not do enough to prove that he was supporting the kids when the order was issued.
"His daughters from his marriage are almost 18. My question is, due to the fact that he has one more child, can he get his child support modified?"
----> Probably but how close to 18 are they? The arrears are not going to be dropped or changed even if the base CS is lowered, and being that there are 2 of them it's probably not going to go down by much. He also needs to take into consideration his income then from now. If it's gone up credit for another child could even make it a wash.
----> If all the money is CS and she is getting assistance she is not doing anything "fraudulant". The state KNOWS how much money to the penny she gets from him. If she still qualifies it's on the up and up. In some states CS is not counted for ALL assistance. The CS I receive is not taken into account for daycare assistance, only what I make. When I was unemployed for 9 months I lived on my 401K and didn't apply for foodstamps until my UE ran out (that was before you could get UE for 5 freaking years with all of the extensions) and was asked why I didn't apply sooner. The 401K would not have been considered "income". So my question is....Can you prove she is committing fraud anywhere? I'm guessing not. It's just sour grapes and you don't want to admit you are the one who has made a bad choice in a man.
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DedicatedDad
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I'm under the impression the fraud is she received welfare cash (based on that she lived in Section 8 housing), and never declared the money she was getting from the shared account each month. Had she declared that money, she would have received less or no cash assistance each month.
Regardless, it won't help the OP financially. The arrears are probably owed to the state....there's no chance of getting those waived.
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Miranda
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I am sorry but it is not hard to change direct deposit. You can do it online with mypay and it is changed by the next pay day.
Also I read it that she took money out during the 6 months of severance pay ( I have never heard of severance pay unless he got out at "higher tenure" and that is not severance pay)not for the last 12 years.
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MamaK
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Why are there so many people here willing to play the part of the judge? How would you like it if someone cheated on you, took a power of attorney to take credit out in your name (and not hers) while you were out of the country, get apartments in your name, brainwash your kids, sit in your parents' house pregnant with someone else's child...not to mention have her family beat you....would you, feeling you were alone fight back?
No, I haven't made a bad choice in a man at all you a$$hole debi. Even if nothing gets changed, I will stay with him because he saved my life. NONE of you judgmental pricks know the whole story. I almost died and that man stayed by me when my family ignored me. He is a good person who has been cowed by our shitty family legal system like many men. How does that make HIM the bad person? He made a mistake in not telling me exactly how long he'd been separated, but he's made up for that in many ways. I'm sorry that ALL OF YOU WHO FEEL THE NEED TO JUDGE ME have had such horrid lives that you have to say the things you do, but you can suck it majorly, ok?
I see why many men just give up, with attitudes like I've seen here, why not? YES he waited too long to do what he should have done...but when [censored] of all whores has put you out of your house, is taking your money, lying to the men in her family so they attaack you, what would YOU do? Jeez.
Either way, it's 3 years tops that cankerwhore and her spoiled girls keep getting this money. I can wait. My son doesn't deserve poverty because of this woman.
Thank you to the handful of people on this thread and others who have responded in a mature manner. The rest of you can suck it.
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gr8Dad
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What you will find on here is a number of women who, while EMOTIONALLY scarred by their divorces, were not FINANCIALLY scarred. I have been in his shoes. It is easy to say, "Well, just go PAY someone to do ____." But when you do not have the MONEY, it can be a daunting task.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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