angl26
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My "husband" has not been able to hold a job in about 5 years, has made no attempt to find a job, does nothing but watch tv and go to the bar, he doesn't do any housework, and he does drugs, (reasons also I want out of the marriage, along with being verbally abusive). He claims if I take him to court for a divorce, he'll take me for alimony, because his lifestyle would change so much, (he wouldn't be able to use my money to pay for his bad habits anymore). Would they really grant this too him?
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Miranda
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Anything is possible.
What state are you in?
5 years is a short term marriage. Any alimony, I would think, would be limited and short term if ordered.
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angl26
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Pennsylvania, Huntingdon County
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Miranda
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Case by Case
•Under Pennsylvania law, alimony is granted on a case by case basis. No automatic obligation for one spouse to support the other exists. The court examines the relevant factors in each case and makes a decision to grant alimony to one of the parties, or not grant alimony to either party, based on the evidence presented to the court.
Marital Misconduct
•The court may take marital misconduct during the marriage by either party into consideration when deciding whether to grant alimony. Marital misconduct may apply to such things as infidelity, violence, addiction or other types of behavior by a spouse that undermine the marriage. Marital misconduct that occurs after the final separation of two parties is not considered unless the court finds the actions abusive.
Duration
•The duration of alimony payments by one party to the other is at the discretion of the court. It may order alimony payments for either a definite or an indefinite period, depending on the circumstance of each case.
Pendente Lite
•The alimony laws of Pennsylvania allow the court to grant alimony pendente lite (pending the litigation), which means the court may grant temporary alimony to one party while it decides whether or not to grant permanent alimony to either party. This may include reasonable attorney's fees and expenses. Under pendente lite the court may also direct that health insurance coverage be maintained for the dependent spouse.
Modification
•The court may modify or terminate any existing alimony agreement if it determines that the either party has experienced a significant change in financial circumstances. If the party receiving alimony remarries, the alimony payments are automatically canceled.
Read more: Alimony Laws in Pennsylvania | eHow.com [censored]://[censored].ehow.com/list_5978236_alimony-laws-pennsylvania.html#ixzz1EQMJjnUL
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angl26
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"Marital misconduct" taken into consideration....this morning I sealed an envelope and got called, pardon my French, a [censored]. This is the kind of thing that happens on a daily basis.
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DedicatedDad
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It can be difficult to get alimony with a short marriage (if it has only been 5 years), but PA is the only state that has APL (alimony pendente lite), which makes for 2 years of alimony in even 6 month marriages.
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finz
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It says that he hasn't had a job in 5 years, how long has the marriage been ?
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DedicatedDad
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[quote]It says that he hasn't had a job in 5 years, how long has the marriage been ? [/quote]
And that's the most important factor if it's going to be 2 years....or longer.
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yregna
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You sound like you are complaining, Men have been putting up with this for years.
Why should you NOT have to pay alimony ? Just because you are female ??
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javajunkiee
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Maybe just because he does nothing but watch tv, go to the bar and he does drugs.
Are you saying YOU wouldn't divorce your wife that did that and you WOULDN'T complain about having to pay her alimony??
If YOU have the right to b!tch about gold-digging, lazy women getting alimony, then when a woman complains about a gold-digging lazy husband getting alimony, DEAL WITH IT. You want equality in alimony obligations between genders?? Then you get the joy of listening to women complain about it too.
You could rail against the concept of alimony for any able-bodied adult, *no matter the gender*, but that wouldn't help your frustration level any, now would it? You can be a very rational person when you choose to be, but your message gets lost in your anger. How you aren't exhausted from your own bitterness after every visit to this site I do not know.
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