english7
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Annie, I don't know what you mean. She is going after me because of...what?
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annieo
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Go back to the second page and read where finz replied and right under that reply you joined the conversation with a response that was not nice - there was not any advice offered it simply pointed out how you felt about finz.
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english7
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I know what you are pointing out, but you do not know the history.
I posted in defense of an OP who finz insulted. She does that frequently. Can you understand that?
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finz
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"I'm waiting, finz...."
Oh, so sorry....I didn't get the page.
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finz
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[quote]Finz, let's let go of the "reading comprehension" crap and the you said this so I have to say that crap.
I asked "Why do you hate me--to the point of misinterpreting much of what I say? Why do you go after me like a pit bull who can't let go?"
Can you answer that? [/quote]
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Are you really that obtuse ?
How would you like me to phrase it ? Your bizarre demands for an answer have been answered REPEATEDLY in this thread. You have read it and yet you can't seem to comprehend what you have read. That's pretty much how a reading comprehension issue is defined.
Also....I never said I HAD to respond when you say something rude or ignorant. I said I WILL respond. I'm telling you how I will respond.....one would think you wouldn't still be surprised.
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finz
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[quote]Finz, why do you post on this board? You are not divorced. You do not have step issues, as far as I know.... [/quote]
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*sigh*
Again with the reading comprehension.
I certainly don't expect that everyone here will remember my story, but I do find it odd that you would take the time to question me on why I post here (implying I have no right to be here) when I have been very clear when discussing the fact that I am not divorced about the reasons why. To avoid an ugly custody battle, we are waiting until my younger son graduates from high school.
You might find it odd, but I thought educating myself about the process and having a plan would be better than sticking my head in the sand over multiple issues and then freak out, quit steady income, flee the state, sleep on peoples' couches, live in a crack house, and try to milk $53,000 out of someone because I was stupid enough to wait a year for my stbx to get deployed before filing. Phew ! Hope I didn't leave anything important out there.
I would like to commend you for doing such a super-de-dooper job of ignoring me.
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finz
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[quote]I know what you are pointing out, but you do not know the history.
I posted in defense of an OP who finz insulted. She does that frequently. Can you understand that? [/quote]
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OP was married and fully supported for 23 years to someone that she INSISTS is a deadbeat dad. In her REPEATED defense of her INCORRECT definition of a deadbeat dad, she insisted she had further proof he was an awful dad because he was always working and trying to figure out how to better support his family.....that he has ALWAYS been emotional unavailable to the kids.
If OP, and you, are insulted by hearing the TRUTH....that it was STUPID to make 2 more babies with someone that you are 100% positive is a bad father. Doh !
That is a topic that is near and dear to my heart. As much as I love my younger son, before he was conceieved the writing was already on the wall about my marriage. I knew there was something wrong with my marriage and my husband's ability to relate emotionally with others. I chose to put my blinders on and hope things would change. I shouldn't have brought another child into the picture.
I think it's fair to vent my my mom, or sister, or friend about his personality traits, but I don't think it's fair for me to exagerrate facts on this forum or in front of a judge to try to convince people I deserve full custody, more child support, permission to move the kids away, or more spousal support (that's a general list of issues I've seen here that people seem to think they deserve special treatement for because their ex has been SOOOOO awful....yet they stayed married and made more babies.....doh !)
I don't give people sympathy for blaming their spouse for being the ONLY one who did anything wrong when that is OBVIOUSLY not the case. If they seem a littl oblivious and unable to see the situation clearly, I gently try to set them straight. If they've already been told something by other posters and they start to get snitty in defense of their position, I have no problem taking the gloves off.
OP REPEATEDLY kept INCORRECTLY tossing around the deadbeat dad insult after several posters told her how offensive they found that. Then she explained how ex was happy to make money and she was happy to take it, but he stopped making it so it's fine to check out of the marriage......."I was married to a man who loved making money more than creating relationships and making memories. When he wasn't making money it was easy to leave because there was no connection with us. My heart breaks for my kids" Her heart wasn't broken when the money was good, but now that he's not making bank he suddenly WAS ALWAYS the worst daddy ever. If that doesn't smell like a golddigger to you, I think your golddigger meter is a little off.
You don't have to like my style. But......I have no plans to change.
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english7
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"Are you really that obtuse ?
How would you like me to phrase it ? Your bizarre demands for an answer have been answered REPEATEDLY in this thread. You have read it and yet you can't seem to comprehend what you have read. That's pretty much how a reading comprehension issue is defined.
Also....I never said I HAD to respond when you say something rude or ignorant. I said I WILL respond. I'm telling you how I will respond.....one would think you wouldn't still be surprised."
Okay, that makes no sense at all. The only one I demanded an answer from you is you. At this point, you have not done so. Yeah, I do have a reading comprehension problem, and it is your writing the above that I have a problem with. If I received an essay with writing that does not answer the question asked and wanders illogically, I'd fail it.
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english7
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"I certainly don't expect that everyone here will remember my story, but I do find it odd that you would take the time to question me on why I post here (implying I have no right to be here) when I have been very clear when discussing the fact that I am not divorced about the reasons why. To avoid an ugly custody battle, we are waiting until my younger son graduates from high school."
It matters not a bit that you post in here, not having been divorced or in the process of it. I am trying to figure out where your hate comes from. Waiting until your son is out of the house does not seem to be a cause for such spitefulness.
How old is your son? Does he know about this impending divorce? What a happy home his must be.
So, both you and your husband have agreed to wait so that you don't fight over your son....Why would your husband insist on taking him from you?
As I recall, you are disabled. Will you be able to support yourself after a divorce? Does your husband provide anything financially now?
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DedicatedDad
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Are you capable of walking away? Do you ever wonder why you have multiple divorces? Who would want to put up with someone who pushes.....and pushes....and pushes.....and must get the last word in.
Do you have BPD by chance?....you are showing symptoms....
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