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forigngirl
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need help please....
      #735875 - 03/08/11 08:47 AM

12 years marriage MI 2 kids i didnt work for 10 years my husband makes 200000+ per year ...I am a RN .He pritend didnt heard about alimony ..in his life ..in this stage he is ...if you undestand ...I want to know what is fair for me...I have nobody here no suport i am need advice .His father is a lower and he is saing they will ask 2 mo alimony and I have to work because I am RN..Who even hire me I didnt work for 10 years ...? ...and compare a maybe a RN job money with a doctor money -My husband .

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735878 - 03/08/11 09:07 AM

Why aren't you working?

In many states, even with a large difference in income, if a person won't work when they are qualified, it will at least reduce, if not eliminate alimony.

RN's in the hospital I work at earn $57K to start, and $112K after 10 years....with OT available everyday if desired. I would strongly argue your earning potential if I were him.


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Re: need help please.... [Re: DedicatedDad]
      #735879 - 03/08/11 09:15 AM

Are you still licensed?

If not, find out what it will take for you to get licensed.

You will of course request (and most likely get) spousal support until you can regain your professional license to work. You could also look into some refresher training even if you ARE still licensed to make you more marketable and ask that he support you doing that. I would not expect alimony for more than 5 years at any rate, and given that you DO have a marketable degree a judge will expect that you come to court with a plan OTHER THAN alimony to support yourself long-term.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: DedicatedDad]
      #735880 - 03/08/11 09:22 AM

you didnt uderstand ..i dont have experience 10 years ..My girl friend is RN she makes 35K a year part time she has kids too ...is oll i kan work My husband makes 218000$.compare the numbers I understand you are a burned out ..ex i feel bad for you I was a good wife .cook and clean every day he has some problems for never gat treatment...and he served me he got tired of me insisting he get treatment...i am sorry for you i see you are very upset.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735881 - 03/08/11 09:26 AM

i am not working because he wanted me.. his cariere ..his residency colls i give up my cariere for him he wanted ...to not worry about anything home ...

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735882 - 03/08/11 09:31 AM

Oh, I'm not upset at all. As for part time being "all you can work," the courts will "impute" your income to full time for alimony calculations, whether you work full time or not. Or, if your RN license is not current, you may need to take care of that also.

It will help him greatly that his father is an attorney.

You will need one also, but another poster has informed you what to expect in court. Good luck.


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Re: need help please.... [Re: DedicatedDad]
      #735883 - 03/08/11 09:44 AM

for dedicateddad ..just for your curiosity if you read noregrets guy posting in25 1 2011 he made 150000$per year the wife worked part time 20K per year she got 4000 per mo in CS andAL...my husband makes 218000 $...you do the mat..

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735884 - 03/08/11 09:47 AM

I don't think you understand the terms "earning potential" and "impute."

Also, alimony laws differ greatly from state to state. For example in some, 10 years of marriage can result in lifetime alimony. In others there is a 3 year cap period, regardless of the length of marriage.

What does your attorney say?


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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735888 - 03/08/11 09:55 AM

I salute you forigngirl, you escaped your craphole of a country, and came to America to make(meet) your fortune. Good on you, write a letter to the folks back home and tell them how you achieved(married) the american dream.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: DedicatedDad]
      #735889 - 03/08/11 10:00 AM

i dont have one I dont know what to do my husbant is living with me and keep saing will thing work out ..even he brought the papers I love him but i want him to get treatment i dont want him to get cirosis..He give mixed messages ...i want i dont..divorce he even said dont show up !!his father is pushing him the lower he never liked me i am not a doctor like his son I am confused!!!...because my husband kind play with me ...I am a wife wich dont know haw to use a debit card ...if you understend..i dont know where to start

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735890 - 03/08/11 10:03 AM

far you yregna...He is forign like me hanny ...you are mean but god help you >he has the same spelling like me ...do you undestand I hope you dont need his services one day ...seems you need some terapy ...

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735891 - 03/08/11 10:08 AM

Honestly, your posts can't be for real.

Nobody that is college educated would be at the english skill level you are. And, the odd replies you have, are that of a young person playing around.

Have a great day.


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Re: need help please.... [Re: DedicatedDad]
      #735892 - 03/08/11 10:13 AM

I never studied anglaise i speak french..we speak french in home..you see who will hire me you tink i am a joke...you said I have great potentiale to be hire ...I am required to write legal papers in my job...Do you still i am a great potential to be hire?

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735894 - 03/08/11 10:18 AM

every store i go people ask me to repeat ...my french never gone away i went to school...I hope the judge is french too....By the way do i require to speak i am paniky...?haw many time do i have to go ?and do i have to respond in 25 days ?i have to have a special formulare to respond to the papers or just write by hand a response?

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735897 - 03/08/11 10:27 AM

I suggest you find a bilingual lawyer (one who speaks both french and english), because unless you go to court in Quebec - it will ALL be in English.

And don't sign anything your husband or his father give you.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: elliesmom]
      #735901 - 03/08/11 10:36 AM

thank you ellie I come here on this site to find friends but people juge me because i am forign ..suposely is a free country ..I didnt got friends and not even real responses..I tought we are here to suport eachother ...sorry i didnt know is just for some people only ...this forum..

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735903 - 03/08/11 11:15 AM

I won't bother trying to help you anymore. You don't understand how the family law court works. You also have a TREMENDOUS chip on your shoulder.

Finally, and most important, you aren't looking for a way to better yourself or the lives of the children, but only on how to get a free ride.

You are probably right about your potential....it is 0, but ONLY because that is what you have CHOSEN. But, the courts will rule you can be a 0 if you want, but will impute you to a full time working person anyway.


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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735917 - 03/08/11 01:38 PM

Take some English classes and some grammar classes and get your license reinstated if it's expired. It doesn't MATTER if you haven't worked in 10 years, if you are divorcing you WILL have to get a job. Your friend works part time and earns 35k....so you could easily earn upward of $50k working full time once you get on your feet. Combined with child support for the children, you will be fine if you stop making excuses.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735918 - 03/08/11 01:41 PM

[quote] ...I am required to write legal papers in my job... [/quote]

I thought you were unemployed? And educated to be a nurse, not something in the legal field.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: Avaya]
      #735945 - 03/08/11 05:35 PM

I have good news !!!my husband just bought for me a vv expensive french shampaine And he apologised..he said he didnt even sleep this days ...he cant live without me ,,...and he retracted his action from court .....he said his father pressured him he never liked me I will pray God for oll of you....but my kids dont want to see their grandpa.....they were there when the grandpa served me the papers...He is triyg to buy for his favorite one a BMW just to get him to talk to him...My kids are his only grangkids

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735946 - 03/08/11 05:58 PM

Withholding the grandchildren is a shameful act.

Of course, you sound like a 12 year old.

You can't be for real.


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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735947 - 03/08/11 05:59 PM

he said God didnt let him to sleepfor 4 days ..is a sin divorce if your partener dont find somebodyelse Jesus is the way ..his father left his mother for her best friend naw he want him divorced too ....but God saved our mariage .....I will pray for oll of you God saig pray first for your anemies ...and then for your family

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735948 - 03/08/11 06:04 PM

I will pray for you dedicateddad because you have a lot of rage Christ be with you

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735949 - 03/08/11 06:09 PM

in the kingdom of god they dont ask me if i know haw to spell anglaise he will judge me what i did ....you dont know me I may not know anglaise but i am a good person Maybe somebody hurt you maybe you are lonly ..you are in my prayers SOry my speling

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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735950 - 03/08/11 06:26 PM

Actually, the bible says to truly follow Jesus, you have to hate your family.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: gr8Dad]
      #735967 - 03/08/11 08:14 PM

"expensive french shampaine "


You know champagne is a french word, right ?


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Re: need help please.... [Re: forigngirl]
      #735969 - 03/08/11 08:21 PM

Too bad I don't have your husbands work address, so I could privately send him a sympathy card.

Your true colors already came though in your posts. You are just going to ride the money train longer sometime in the future.


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Re: need help please.... [Re: finz]
      #735971 - 03/08/11 09:28 PM

But if she's trying to spell it phonetically in English, she has it about right.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: english7]
      #735979 - 03/08/11 10:28 PM

Sorry, but someone this incapable of expressing themselves articulately, or spelling properly, would make me very nervous if I were under her care. A nurse should be able to communicate a patients condition CLEARLY, and spell well enough to read a doctors orders and make notations in a chart.

Bless her heart, she can barely comprehend, let alone write in the language. Perhaps it wasn't such a bad move for her husband to request she not work as a nurse. The malpractice suits could've been quite draining.

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Re: need help please.... [Re: english7]
      #735981 - 03/08/11 10:45 PM

I would think a French person would know that champagne is the same word in French and English. At least an educated one. There would be no reason to try to spell it phonetically.

I call troll

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Re: need help please.... [Re: javajunkiee]
      #735983 - 03/08/11 11:24 PM

"someone this incapable of expressing themselves articulately, or spelling properly, would make me very nervous if I were under her care."

Yes, I agree.


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