Chrissy28
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Just a week ago my husband told me he wants a divorce. He says he has fallen out of love with me. He says we dont want the same things in life. It is just killing me. I don't know what to do. He told me out in Maine and we are from Minnesota. He left me here in Maine. At least I am with my mother. I feel so cheated. I didn't get to go home and say good bye to friends and family. I am scared to go back due to my well being. I dont know what the next step is. Thanks for listening. :(
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LadyBugRN
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Dear Chrissy,
I feel you pain hon, I was you, almost 10 years ago. I came here and met so many wonderful people, who helped me so very much. Keep posting, search through the other forums too and know that this is a safe place, where sometimes it feels no one else can understand, you will find people here that do!
I can tell you that almost 10 years out now, life does go on, you do get past it and you rebuild your life. You probably cannot see it now, but you will look back and realize that your husband leaving, was actually a gift. I was where you are, I was devastated and I was left to raise 3 sons all by myself. I can honestly say that getting out of an awful marriage, was a gift and I can clearly see that now.
Hugs,
Lori
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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...it's about learning to dance in the rain."
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dough
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I too am going through a divorce at this moment. Times have been tough. I came onto this site to seek help and have met some wonderful people. The good thing is that you have your mom to love and support you. Have her go back with you for support when you go back. If you want to salvage your marriage and feel like you and your husband can work things out, then seek counseling or church. What ever happens I wish you the best of luck with everything.
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Chrissy28
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Thank you both for your insight. I am currently looking for a counselor. That will really help.
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Melissa30
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Chrissy,
I know how you are feeling. I am currently going through the process of a divorce after being with my husband for 7 years. He sprung the news on wanting a divorce earlier this month. I moved out of state from my hometown to be with him. I just moved back home to my family to try to deal with this and its not easy at all. I admit I am very scared and nervous on how people will react and trying to start a brand new life.
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ItWillBeOk
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I'm new to all of this as well. My husband stated he wanted out on December 21st and filed the very next day. I feel like I'm in a black hole and there's no way out. I'm hurt that after 6 years together, he's just bailing out.
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solodetours
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I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. This is a really tough time and you need to have support you can count on. You will get through this-right now it is hard to see that. If your spouse is willing to see a counselor-do it! You need two people, working hard, to make a marriage work!
Take Care,
Shari Goldsmith Divorce Coach/Counselor
Solo Detours
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tweetybird
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Wow..I did the same thing..moved from South Dakota to South Carolina to be with my husband. After 8 years he informed me he didnt love me anymore. After a couple of months of him ignoring me and treating me badly my son came down and moved me back home to SD. Now I am living paycheck to paycheck..in a menial low paying job..so different than when I was here before. Because of a prenup I get nothing. We were required to be separated for a year before divorcing..The year was November..he filed and now he tells me the judge may not get to the case until June. Which is dumb cause all the judge has to do is sign the papers..He has a girlfriend now...I will be 60 next month..I feel so lost..and so alone...
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