hopeforme
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Long story short I have been with my husband for 20 years married for 18. We have 3 kids , 2 in college and 1 in high school. After years of drinking and gambling I have finally come to my wits end.I have always worked in some aspect or another when our kids were small I did daycare and then as they got older I started working out of the house. He has been employed at the same company for 15 years and after taxes brings in 105,000.00 per year after my taxes I bring in 25,000.00. I can not financially make it on this will I qualify for alimony? Any idea of the amount for alimony, child support, and help paying for college?
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javajunkiee
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You'll qualify for alimony. Get a consult with an atty to discuss your options and what to expect. Different states have different guidelines that are used when calculating the amt and duration of alimony. If you find an atty you're comfortable with hire him/her.
One note: His being ordered to pay alimony is different than him actually paying it. Enforcing an alimony order can be a low priority depending on the caseload of child support orders in your area. Even if he's told to pay it, never count on it. Start looking to make changes that will allow you to make ends meet on your own. Then if he does pay? You've got a bit extra for emergency.
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Goodmom
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[quote]One note: His being ordered to pay alimony is different than him actually paying it. Enforcing an alimony order can be a low priority depending on the caseload of child support orders in your area. [/quote]
That probably won't be a problem until the child support ends for the youngest child, depending on the state.
In NJ, the state won't garnish spousal support unless there is also a child support order. Both are typically garnished at the same time. If there is no child support, then the state won't garnish.
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javajunkiee
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Thanks GM, I didn't consider garnishment in my response to the OP. I know that in some states, like Michigan for example, ss isn't garnished unless requested. So even if cs is a garnishment, ss wouldn't automatically be.
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hanzblinx
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Let me translate: I have met some guy on facebook and think it's a good time to cash out on my marriage. I cannot accept responsibility for this so I'll blame it on him to garner sympathy. I really dont like working so what's the largest possible ammount I can screw him over for? I know my kids are all adults now but it would also be nice to collect more money from him under the guise of child support. My new boyfriend and I will need as much money as possible as he is a rugged "bad boy" and like me prefers not to work either.
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Maury
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Let me translate Hanz's post:
"I am a sad, pathetic misogynyst who cannot hold a positive relationship together because of anger and resentment issues. As a result, I bounce a aound making bitter and angry posts on divorce bulletin boards since it becomes boring to simply hang out with the other misogynsts on the anti-misandry website I usually go to."
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yregna
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Quote " who cannot hold a positive relationship together because of anger and resentment issues."
Maury's idea of holding a relationship together consists of buying the female extra little trinkets and such, and not insisting she work at a job. In his mind, that is holding the relationship together. I've heard Dave Ramsey say exactly the same thing, in fact yesterday he said " Buying that Coach handbag was an investment in Sharon.. "
Um, Maury, we don't need to invest in a female to enjoy her company like you, we prefer she earn her own living.
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yregna
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Years of drinking and gambling wasn't a problem, until I qualify for lifetime alimony and child support.
Now I don't want to work any more, and I want him to pay...Such a typical example of today's females....
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hanzblinx
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[quote]Years of drinking and gambling wasn't a problem, until I qualify for lifetime alimony and child support.
Now I don't want to work any more, and I want him to pay...Such a typical example of today's females.... [/quote]
Ah yes, 20 years, the magic number! This gal is crafty like a fox. Very convenient time to divorce indeed. At the 19 year mark she may have lost her chance at lifetime alimony.
Also a little bizarro that she claims to be economically dependent on him but at the same time she is leaving him because of his gambling habits. that's seems like a contradiction.
The picture gets ever clearer, she is gold digging in the worst way. If you're gonna do that, at least leave the kids out of it lady. They are not minors anymore and should not be pawns in some greedy effort you are undertaking.
Edited by hanzblinx (04/11/11 06:15 PM)
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hopeforme
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What a bunch of prime examples of why women leave there husbands! People may come on this site to find some actual information, if you have only hateful things to say why not find a women haters group to join!
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