haventstartedyet
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My stbx called me over this past weekend & started going off about the 2010 Tax Return & how he isn't going to give me 1/2 of it. I stayed quiet & let him rant & rave. He told me that I could do whatever I wanted to at this point because he now is no longer going to agree with ANYTHING in the papers...so basically anything he had agreed to he no longer does. So I'm back at square one. I've called my atty this morning & am waiting for a callback from him. In the meantime, can anyone tell me what would happen at this point since my stbx is now being impossible? I believe mediation is the next step...but that would be futile. What is currently in the papers as my latest proposal is not going to be changed, so I'm not sure what mediation would resolve? Can this go straight to court now w/o mediation? I realize a judge would have to make all the decisions & I know that would be very annoying & is something the atty's don't want to have happen. Once a court date is requested, isn't it 77 days from that point when the actual court date is set?(I think I read that somewhere) I'm very concerned that things are not moving along as they should & I'm pretty agrivated at where things stand right now.
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haventstartedyet
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Here's something else...stbx will be deployed again this coming October/November. Is there a chance in he!! that this divorce could be finalized before then? I'm concerned that stbx is purposely making things more difficult so that it can last longer and then he'll be deployed which puts everything on the back burner.
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javajunkiee
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If he's not agreeing to things he can delay mediation, delay hearings, etc. It's quite possible that it wouldn't be heard before he deploys, and then he could delay it BECAUSE he's deployed.
What got him so pissed off?
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elliesmom
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He probably can delay things for quite a while. It took my father 3 years to divorce a woman he was married to for 5 and no kids and a prenup with. He spent more time divorcing her than married!
I don't see any benefit to him to do so, but he can.
If it looks like that will happen and you want it over - you can always shoot him a better offer if he signs before he deploys. If you really want it over with. That is how the game is played I am afraid.
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haventstartedyet
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He is p.o.'d about the 1/2 of the tax return I am entitled to after he claimed me & our 2 children...but didn't offer me a dime of it & went & bought himself the most expensive sport's car on the market. Now he's claiming he doesn't have the money...which doesn't really matter. He wants me to drop it...I won't...so he's p.o.'d. What he did was wrong...all the way around. He continues to make poor choices. My children & I are not going to pay for that. He knows when this issue is brought up in court, it will not look good for him...so yes, he is p.o.'d, but he is most likely mad at himself. He thought I would be stupid & never consider bringing this into things. It is a lot of money...I know this because I filed the year before & he makes the same amount of money that he did then. If it wasn't a lot of money...I would drop it.
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finz
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Shame on him for thinking he was entitled to the tax refund on the money he made
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elliesmom
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The more time that passes - the more unlikely it is that you will get the tax return. Particularly since it sounds like it was solely his income. I know in my DH's case (in GA) while the judge gave her almost everything - he didn't give her that because she wasn't working. I certainly wouldn't want to make THAT the hill I died upon.
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haventstartedyet
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Actually, shame on him for claiming me & the children to get more money for himself. The children & I did not live there all of 2010. I have the children..does that matter at all? Why should he keep all of that money & then hurry up & spend it the way he did? Even if I got some money to support the children where the tax return was concerned considering he did not pay support for November & Dec. of 2010. I have decided to take the hit and the most recent thing I did was tell my atty that I would be willing to stop persuing the tax return if stbx would agree to the CS, Alimony & Retirement percentage we agreed on before the tax return was even brought up. So in order to try to get this moving again, I am cutting stbx a major break & again I wait for an answer. I also told my atty that if stbx will not agree to this proposal, then I will fight to the end's of the earth for what is rightfully the children's and mine no matter how long it was going to be dragged out. I guess we'll see...I'll report more when I get an answer.
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finz
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You lived there MOST of 2010, you were STILL MARRIED for all of 2010, why wouldn't he claim you and the kids ? You were his dependents
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DedicatedDad
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Actually, I don't see this case coming to an end in the near future. I went back and read the OP's 91 posts, and at least 80 of them are about money.
Money squabbles and child custody battles guarantee a long divorce. The custody part seems to already be done. That leaves the money.
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