Lyndsay
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My husband has checked out of our relationship and was busted carrying on a relationship with a co-worker. He has admitted that he has feelings for the other girl and isn't sure he wants to be married any longer.
My fear is more for our young girls than myself at this point. Any tips on how to help my older one cope with all the upcoming issues?
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Lyndsay - Mom to two little girls
In the beginning stages of separation.
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yregna
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I'm stoked for your husband, getting out so early. That way for the rest of his life he will have less Child Support to pay, and zero alimony.
Hooray for him !
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CAFamilyLaw44
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Hi,
I am so sorry for what you are currently experiencing, especially with two precious litle girls in the mix as well.
Though it is never easy for a child to understand the divorce, one thing you must do is assure your older daughter that it is nothing she or her sister did to cause the unhappiness in your marriage - as children are very good at finding a way to blame themselves for what is going on in their homes.
Let her know that her mommy and daddy each love her very much and that this wil never change even if you each live in a different home as she grows up.
Also make sure to always speak highly of her father, as putting him down will cause many problems down the line.
I hope this helps, and best of luck in your situation.
CAFamilyLaw44
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Abby1234
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Make sure the children know you love them no matter what goes on and never talk down about their father around them
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leo023
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Am sorry for what your experiencing, I can relate because am divorce. Maybe not the same circumstances, but I do have 3 children. The first thing I did was insured my children that they where not the cause of the breakup and that I loved them as well as their father. I even had my minister talk to my children so they knew if they could not talk to me there was someone they could talk to. Communicate with your kids is number one. Good luck!
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mom2Kyra76
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I totally understand how you feel...My husband I and have been either bickering or sitting in silence for the past month...
He left home 2 days ago to stay with his parents as we try to sort everything out. He told our 4 year-old that we were going to "live in different places" for awhile.. It's very clear that she doesn't understand.
I, myself, can't seem to go 10 minutes w/o crying and I just feel completely lost. I am doing the best I can right now to hold it together the best I can, but feel like I'm causing her distress too.
I keep telling her how much Mommy and Daddy love her and it doesn't matter if we live together or not, that our love for her won't change. Am I doing the right thing??
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czolgosz
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[quote]I'm stoked for your husband, getting out so early. That way for the rest of his life he will have less Child Support to pay, and zero alimony.
Hooray for him ! [/quote]
I agree w/ your sentiment regarding the ex-wife paychecks, but the OP (as far as I can tell) doesn't merit being $hit on. She could be one of the good ones unfortunately married to a lieing, cheating, a-hole of a man.
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