14divorce
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I don't mind him seeing my child if he wants to; it is hard to say what relationship between them is now, because she does not speak English, and he does not speak our language, so they can not communicate at all unless I translate for them. They don't really KNOW each other.
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gr8Dad
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Why would you be with a guy for a YEAR in this country and your child not speak ANY english?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Sherron
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"I don't mind him seeing my child if he wants to; it is hard to say what relationship between them is now, because she does not speak English, and he does not speak our language, so they can not communicate at all unless I translate for them. They don't really KNOW each other. "
Too late now, but I find it a bit strange that despite being married to the person, your dd neither really knows her stepdad, nor is she able to communicate with him. What was your reasoning behind that, if you don't mind the question?
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14divorce
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She does not speak English because I am the caregiver, she spends 99% of her time with me, and we speak our language. She never had a chance to go to a playgroup or daycare because my husband sees no point in paying for this if I can do it for free. She speaks a little English, like, "Can I have a cookie" or "Pretty puppy!" etc, but she can not really understand anything beyond that. Language is ONLY learnt when a person is among people who speak it, and she lost a year of schooling, opportunity to learn English and be around kids her age since we arrived here, it makes me so angry with my husband! According to the laws here, I was not allowed to work, we only got our papers in May, so we had to totally depend on him for everything, and if he said HE is going to decide how to manage HIS finances himself, and daycare is not on his priority list, so it was. Kids don't start to speak English just because geographically, they are in an English-speaking country.
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But, you obviously TYPE English, do you not speak it too? And, if so, why couldn't you teach the child some English?? Do you not converse with your husband in English?
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Sherron
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"Kids don't start to speak English just because geographically, they are in an English-speaking country. "
Kids don't start to speak any language just because they are in a certain geographic area. If you are planning on remaining in the US with her, it would be wise for you to begin teaching her English asap.
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gr8Dad
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Why would you put a child in DAYCARE when you CANNOT work and are home all day? Why WOULDN'T he manage his own finances, you seem to be unqualified to care for a KID during the day or make sure they learn the LANGUAGE.
You want to blame your soon to be ex for all of this, well, he put a roof over your head and housed and clothed you for a YEAR, do you think that was FREE?
Sorry, but this sounds like a green card marriage.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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[quote]Sorry, but this sounds like a green card marriage. [/quote]
---------->> Ding ding ding! I do believe we have a winner! Tell him what his prize is Johnny!
Glad you said it, I was thinking it :)
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14divorce
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this is incredible. A green card marriage. Does a GC give any privilege??? Why on Earth do you think that someone might want it so badly they would leave any other country, their job, their friends, to come to this one? Like, does a Green Card come with money and a house and happiness? Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but it does not.
I came here because I fell in love with this man and was ready to live with him, and he could not move to my country. All I got was abuse. I am not going to stand it, and I want a divorce. I am NOT asking for support. All I asked for was legal advice.
No, I do not think that housing and food was free. Do you think food and shelter is all a woman needs in a marriage? Like, I house you and feed you, so I can do whatever with you? I can lock you up, I can humiliate you, and you have to shut up and tolerate this - you get a Green Card in return. Seriously??
Yes, I type in English. I speak English, it's my profession. I have been teaching my daughter English since before we relocated. I already said that she can speak and understand some. Although, to understand everything people say, one has to be around people, if she had a chance to go to headstart, which, before we came, he told me he "had arranged" for her to get enrolled in, she would have spoken fluently by now. On the other hand, probably she still would not be able to communicate with him. It's hard to communicate with someone who is glued to the screen when they are home.
anyway, I just wanted to ask if he by some weird twist of laws might take my child from me. that's all I need to know.
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Sherron
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"Does a GC give any privilege???"
It allows you to live and work in this country as a permanent resident.
"Like, does a Green Card come with money and a house and happiness? Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but it does not."
It allows you to work... which gets you money... which can buy you a house... you already have the right to pursuit of happiness.
You said you got your "papers" that allow you to work in May... if by that you mean a green card and you're considering divorce in the same month... I can understand how people may jump to that conclusion.
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