LAmama2
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Hello. This is my first time posting here and I need advise.
I am in CA fyi.
I will make a very long story as short as possible.
I was married for 9 yr. and 11 mo. when my ex husband filed for divorce. He had an affair with a woman he met through his job and quickly he began to change. Within a few months he filed for divorce.
He remarried quickly and he has our 2 children 13 days out of the month, so nearly 50/50.
His wife has taken control over every situation when it comes to our children. All communication comes from her.
I feel all issues are between me and my ex hub. but none the less she runs the show.
My ex quit his excellent paying job a few months ago to begin a new business which the new wife is finacially supporting. He has done this to, I"m sure have my support lowered.( BTW) my support has been reduced 3 times already due to his very creative attorney)
So, now I work 2 part time jobs and am barely making ends meet while he lives a grand life. Travel, new everything, etc. Taking our children to beautiful places.
So now that our divorce has been final for 1 1/2 yrs.
His verbal and emotional abuse towards me is terrible. He never treated me this way duringa our marriage.
Any time he asks me to change something regarding the kids, if I dont comply he calls me horrible names like, "F-off and Die!" Tells me he HATES me with such rage, etc.
This abuse is really taking a toll on me. He wanted this divorce, he got his way and is supposdly with his "soul mate". WHy do you think he wants to say such horrible things to me?
ALso, My ex and his wife refuse to give the our children's health insurance information. This is so upsetting. If I had an emergency with the kids I would hv no insurance info. I cant even make a dentist appt. for them.
His lawyer has been told this too but nothing ever gets done.
Please any advice??
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ssmom79
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First, what is your current custody and visitation? Do you have 50/50 by court order? Is that figured into your current child support amount? When you have a 50/50 schedule it changes the costs for both parties.
YOU decide who runs the show. If you have problems dealing with a new spouse then deal with your ex. Is she someone you can deal with? I mean other than it's the new stepmom controlling everything, is she OK to deal with (i.e. not telling you to F-off and die)? I am controlling and a stepmom and I deal with two very passive parents so I run the show. Is it possible your ex is passive and just sits back to let her run the show?
Starting a new business with a new spouse may not get him a decrease in his child support. What creative skills does his attorney have to reduce support three times in 18 months? Seems unlikely a court would order three reductions in such a short time period. What were the circumstances there?
Maybe he married a sugar mamma who's affording him these luxuries. Thankfully he's not leaving your children behind while he lives this grandeur lifestyle. Sometimes I hear of parents remarrying and disappearing on lavish vacations without their children at all. I have a friend who has three kids and works two part time waitressing jobs. I don't know how she makes ends meet.
Some people have issues. If he is happy and with his soul mate, there'd be no need to be spewing such hate to you. What, if anything, transpired between you two that would make him so hateful? You aren't married and you don't have to accept that sort of abuse. You simply say, I'm not putting up with this abuse, call me when you can discuss this civilly. Period. You stop allowing it and it will stop happening.
Put the request for insurance in writing. Mail certified return receipt to both his attorney and him. Give it 30 days. If no response, tell them you will file contempt charges for withholding the information. Please keep in mind that if they have them almost 50% of the time and they take them on vacations, they will not allow them to go without insurance. My hubby's ex NEVER EVER EVER provided the court ordered documentation on insurance. But any time there is an issue, I refer them to her. So, if you have a problem and they refuse to comply, then advise the hospital/doctor/dentist where they can mail the bill.
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yregna
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Your ex is GENIUS, SHEER GENIUS...9 years and 11 months...He got away from you right before you would file for alimony. I love this guy.
Now you have work for a living, waaaaaa...Let me call the Waaaammmmbulance !!
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ericalim
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Very awful man. I Really don't understand why he have to behaved so awful.
My advice is life must to go on.Take care
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