laurak1964
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Now that my ex-husband has graduated from anger management, learned to keep a home and be an all around "nicer guy" my 5 year old son has decided that "I left them" and is treating me like a major looser. I long to remind him of the lazy, angry hot head of a father he used to have, but I don't. Has this happened to any one else? I feel so hurt. I gave up everything so he could have a nicer dad. Why is my son acting this way toward me??
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gr8Dad
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What, exactly, did you give up in order for DAD to attend classes and improve himsef?
As for what to say when confronted with such a thing is simply, "that is between your father and I, neither of us should discuss it with children...hey, lets have some pie..." and direct the child away from it. Do not give it CREEDENCE, do not give it "air time", simply refuse to discuss it and shift the focus to something else.
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DedicatedDad
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Geez...it sounds like the 5 year old runs the household. You might want to take some parenting classes....you need some help in that area, to put it nicely.
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justaparent
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[quote]Now that my ex-husband has graduated from anger management, learned to keep a home and be an all around "nicer guy" my 5 year old son has decided that "I left them" and is treating me like a major looser. I long to remind him of the lazy, angry hot head of a father he used to have, but I don't. Has this happened to any one else? I feel so hurt. I gave up everything so he could have a nicer dad. Why is my son acting this way toward me?? [/quote]
My question- Is you son happy ? Always remeber YOU are the parent and your SON is the chid. Sometime we feel hurt by our child(ren)s chioces but you sound as if you wanted the Ex to fail on some level with your son and now you are "feeling bad" because you Ex has changed in to " a good father"
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javajunkiee
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"Son, adults often have different ideas about things, and your dad and I have different ideas about this. When you grow up we can talk more about things, but for now, how about an ice cream?"
Deflect the attitude - you do not need to answer to or defend yourself to a 5yr old. To that point, you need to grow a thicker skin, lol. If a small child, who has no clue about adult issues or responsibilities has the ability to hurt your fee fees like this??
Wait til the kid turns into a teenager and knows "everything".
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