JungleEnvy
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I will give you a the short story of my situation.
I've been with my husband 6 years, married 4.5 years. We started having communications issues and he blind sided me and left me. We have 4 kids(3 of which are mine, and 1 ours together) He did not adopt the other 3 but has raised them as his own. We own a home and 3 cars. All the cars are titled in his name but were acquired during our marriage.
We were working on our issues and things were going great than he once again blind sided me with divorce papers.
I do not know what to expect. I have been left with the house which I can not afford.
He had me fired from my place of work which was working for his family business which he owns part of. He had me fired simply because we separated.
He left me with the house and kids. Is barely helping with me with the bills, and I can not afford to stay here much longer but I am working but not enough to make it much longer.
I need advice. I do not even have enough money to get a lawyer. Legal aid here does not take divorce cases pro bono any longer unless there is an order of protection.
I also I am not quite sure I want a divorce. I want marriage counseling, I do not feel we've done everything to save our marriage.
I also I should add he filed for irreconcilable differences.
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
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DedicatedDad
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You haven't been married long enough to get spousal maintainance, so when the divorce is final, he won't have to pay any of the household bills anymore.
Assets acquired during the marriage will be split.
If neither of you can pay for the house, it usually will be ordered to be sold.
Your husband will pay child support by guideline for the 1 child.
I don't know if you are employed, but it appears your only income will be from child support, which won't be enough to support 4 kids. You will either have to get a job, or go to college and get welfare to help you through for while. Good luck.
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JungleEnvy
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i have a job,but my income vs. the debt we have acquired together doesn't not = my income. He caused me to lose my good paying job that I had previously that I could afford the house. Now I'm starting over at a new company. I've always worked and always supported them, but i did not have a mortgage and all that I have now.
He can afford the house on his own.
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DedicatedDad
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He will then probably end up with the house...or sell it. You will then either have to rent or buy another home if you can swing it. Ultimately, you have to either increase income or decrease expenses.
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Renny
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You may get some alimony -- or hold out or some at mediation -- but the overall picture will not change very much. Sounds like you have little or no interest in th house, so it will either be sold or he will keep it. Either way, you will have to move out and earn enough to support your 3 kids and yourself.
Lastly, if he wants a divorce he will eventually get one. The fact that he filed for divorce bodes ill for counseling.
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saroth
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Offer him the house, but he will need to pay you half the equity. If he does not want the house, sell it and after the mortgage is paid off you will split whatever is left. If you owe more than what it can be sold for you might end up owing half of whatever is left of the mortgage (were you both on the mortgage?) Mortgage companies do not have to honor divorce. If you signed, also, you will still owe half.
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