DUPED2011
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My divorce is not final, however it supposed to be in October. I have just found out from my ex that he has had a girlfriend for 7 months. This woman and her eight year old sleep over and occasional bed share. What options do I have to fight this? BTW, my son is 26 months old, so this has been going on since he was 19 months old.
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DedicatedDad
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There's nothing you can do about it.
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javajunkiee
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You can't control what goes on in his home anymore than he can control what goes on in yours. The only exception would be if his GF poses a danger to your child, which you don't indicate you think is the case. If you go into court just because you don't 'like' what he's doing, and not because she's dangerous, you'll look like a control freak with jealousy issues.
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DUPED2011
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Guess what, I can! It's called a morality clause.
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BeachBabeRN
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If there isn't currently a morality clause in your paperwork, then that doesn't apply. In addition, if YOU want one for your ex, expect to have to agree to the same thing -- fair's fair.
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DUPED2011
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@ Beach Babe - I have no problem with that. I have been open and honest from the day we separated. My divorce is not final, it WILL be going in the paperwork.
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javajunkiee
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You can put it in the paperwork all you want. Enforcing it is another issue. What makes you think he'll agree to putting it in the paperwork? If he's already shacking up with the gf, do you think he'll stop just because you insist on it?
I get that you don't like it, and I wouldn't like it either. The fact is though he IS going to do what he wants to do with his child on his time. Remember, you're both parents, and you BOTH get to decide what is or isn't harmful to your child. IF you get that clause inserted you can expect him to stop telling you what goes on when the child is there. You can expect him to start hiding the fact that his gf spends time with his child, so how do you enforce the clause then? Question your child everytime the kid comes home and put them in the position of having to tattle on daddy?
Like I said, I get WHY you want it. I don't think you've thought it through very well though. The amount of issues you could cause yourself and your child for something that ultimately? Neither you nor the court can control? Those issues could bite you far worse, and for far longer, than the child sleeping in the same bed with daddy and his new gf. Do some research in your area and find out how many successful contempt charges have been raised for violating the morality clause.
Edited by javajunkiee (09/22/11 08:09 PM)
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ssmom79
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^^ yea this.
They aren't the norm here in FL. Not saying you won't get one, but they are difficult to enforce and you won't prove he's endangering the child by violating it unless the GF is a druggie or running tricks out of her house. Frankly, later on, you may find yourself violating the clause, and then what?
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