naive_no_more
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I filed for emergency custody, (you can read my other posts on this if you want more info) we had the expedited custody conciliation with the Master. Of course he lied, said there was no past drug use and no current use. Does he not remember that he told the Mater last year at the first conciliation that he had a drug problem but he quit and she even commended him on his success! I also have the paper work that shows our whole family received free support counseling as the family of an addict from youth and family services. Anyway,
The master is going to interview our children next Monday, its not a full fledge custody evaluation, she is just going to talk to them to see if they are currently emotionally stable.
Has anyone gone through this process? What do they ask the children?????
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Renny
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Like a GAL, but with much less time, the master will let the kids talk, generally trying to find out whether they feel in danger of any kind, neglected, unhappy, etc. I didn't read your prior posts, so I have no opinion myself.
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naive_no_more
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forgive my stupidity but what does GAL stand for. I don't spend a lot of time on here so I am not always sure of the abbreviations.
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annieo
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Guardian Ad Litem - it is a person who studies families within their environments and gathers information from people in their lives - generally an extensive study and is very popular with the family court system as a way to try and determine where a child should reside or what would be "the best interest for the child" etc...
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naive_no_more
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gotcha, thanks.
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gr8Dad
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He can easily state that by "past" he meant since he quit (how long has he been clean?).
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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naive_no_more
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Well, that's the thing. I asked for a hair folicle test in my emergency petition because he is such a heavy smoker and I wanted toxicity levels. He claims he quit in 2008 when I told him I wanted a divorce. Not true, my kids found his pot just a few months ago, he left the ball park during a baseball game (to move his truck he said) and when he called me after I filed the emergency petition (which he never calls me, he always talks through the kids) he made it a point to say he quit in 08 but that he smoked a little bit in August (right before I filed). Addicts will say anything.......... My kids also still talk about how he lays around on the couch... (burnout). He can't tell the truth to save his gluteus maximus.... He called me for the first time in almost 2 years to try and now all of the sudden, try to come to some sort of undrstanding when I have been trying to get him to communicate for the past 2 years about the kids and he refused..... now all of the sudden he acts like he wants to settle things together with therapy and co-parenting and all that, we tried all that and he just gave up when he realized I wasn't coming back. So why the sudden change of heart, because he's scared his true drug addiction will finally be proved. He's very clever and has never been caught.
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gr8Dad
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Okay, first off, marijuana is not addictive.
"He claims he quit in 2008 when I told him I wanted a divorce. Not true, my kids found his pot just a few months ago, he left the ball park during a baseball game (to move his truck he said) and when he called me after I filed the emergency petition (which he never calls me, he always talks through the kids) he made it a point to say he quit in 08 but that he smoked a little bit in August (right before I filed). Addicts will say anything..."
Um, he ADMITTED he smoked. "Addicts" don't do that.
"My kids also still talk about how he lays around on the couch... (burnout)."
So I take it that at your house you never sit down and are CONSTANTLY in motion at all times? You DO realize that the "burnout" thing is a MYTH, right?
"He called me for the first time in almost 2 years to try and now all of the sudden, try to come to some sort of undrstanding when I have been trying to get him to communicate for the past 2 years about the kids and he refused..... now all of the sudden he acts like he wants to settle things together with therapy and co-parenting and all that, we tried all that and he just gave up when he realized I wasn't coming back. So why the sudden change of heart, because he's scared his true drug addiction will finally be proved. He's very clever and has never been caught."
So you WANT him to do certain things, he is BEGINING to do those certain things, and your are now questioning WHY? Perhaps the time away from the kids or the threat of losing them has given him a change of heart?
You are faced with an opportunity. He is willing to work with you now, why not ACCEPT it (on your terms) and go with it?
I assure you, I have EXTENSIVE experience in court, and they will NOT reduce or eliminate his parenting time because he MIGHT smoke weed occasionally. Maybe if he was smoking it WITH them, but not for just smoking it. Weed is on the VERGE of being legalized anyway.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Renny
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Agree gr8. When is this NIDA nonsense about pot going to stop? Wikipedia gives a more balanced view.
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annieo
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I once had a judge tell me if they took kids away from parents for pot smoking there would be a 5 foster homes on every street
I realize this is one parent not liking the pot smoking but he better be lacing it with pcp if you are wanting his time limited - most people do not even consider pot an
"addictive" drug in the same sense as meth or coke or similar drugs. He would as Gr8 said need to be smoking it WITH them.
If there have not been any incidents as a result of him smoking a little weed here and there I would not count on his time being limited.
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