bensdad
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I am in Michigan in case that make a difference. We have joint legal custody, mother has primary physical, I have weekend parenting. Under the definition of joint legal custody, is one parent allowed to act unilaterally to move a child from one school to another without discussing it with the spouse?
In the past, mother has moved and changed schools which, although never discussed with me, was understandable. For the past four years, he has attended a private Christian school. I have been actively involved, attending PTA, volunteering with school functions whenever I could.
Choice of the school was done unilaterally by mother as well as responsibility for tuition. A substantial low income subsidy was provided by the school and he balance paid by the maternal grandmother. There have been significant problems with absence and late arrival over the last 4 yrs. Mother comes up with one excuse after another. The school decided to end her subsidy citing, "the child does not appreciate the educational opportunity".
Now he is enrolled in another Christian school which has a higher tuition rate and I am not sure how she is paying for it. I suspect some charitable organization is helping her.
At first, my son told me they have to move because the rent is going up on her subsidized apt. I could understand the last move where she lived on a college campus housing while attending because she ceased attending the college. (This may have been due to poor grades or attendence on her part or it may be due to the chief of security who cited her residence as a "health, safety and fire hazard"). A referral to CPS was made relating to environmental neglect. CPS of course, did nothing but offer her instruction on how to clean.
She has now decided to move him to another school. If her apt rent was going up, why didn't she find a place closer to his existing school? None of this is shared with me. I also do not know what she has told my son as she has her afraid to tell me anything.
I suspect the reason she decided to change schools is because the previous one knew her too well.
Is there any way i can force her to share these details with me?
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Renny
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Does the divorce settlement agreement or the divorce decree/order say anything about who has the final decision in major areas such as education, religion, medical and extracurricular activities? any language about the parents having to consult before major decisions?
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bluesman
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I made sure that the shared parenting agreement states that she can not pull my children out of the school without my permission. My children are in a private religious day school and since she does not want them to attend, I pick up all the tuition. She originally set them up to attend the school, and she now has to live with the decision (the school is good for my children, and I am not planning on moving them at this time).
My primary concern is the moves: Seems like she moves often. How does this effect your son? How is he managing with the constant change? I would document that, and perhaps attempt some custodial influence if his home is so unstable.
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