ssmom79
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I'm of the mindset that you do what's best for the child first, so if taking her to school so he doesn't have to worry with getting her there will work, that is the route I would choose.
To avoid overstepping, I would phrase it as though you are offering to help him out, rather than controlling the situation. You say, listen, I know it's tough for you to get her to school in the morning, would it help if I picked her up on those mornings? The idea is to get them to think you're helping them.
It is never wrong to want your ex to behave as a responsible parent, however, you cannot control his actions. So I recommend finding a work around. With kids at 3 and 6 you have a long way to go co-parenting.
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elliesmom
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Offering to take her to school on his days would certainly be cheaper than hiring a lawyer - if you have the ability to do that.
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BeckaLeigh
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I would fear the same thing if my X had a habit of letting our child skip school for no reason. Their education is number one. Maybe that really is her only fear about Dad having more time.
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gr8Dad
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Yes, but its not like the kid is missing AP Physics, its a few days of KINDERGARTEN.
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BeckaLeigh
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gr8dad, from kinder up, I would NOT let my kids miss a day of school unless they were sick. No fun days, no nothing. All because everything I've ever read point to habits instilled early are the hardest to break. Besides, it isn't like it is going to matter if it is kinder or AP physics, if they take it to court, it is still the same ticket or jailtime.
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gr8Dad
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But you also get to see your kids regularly as a CP. The "unwritten rules" are different for NCP's, and even those who won't ADMIT it, KNOW it.
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Tweeby
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Gr8, my husband was upset when he found out how much time his kids missed in the younger grades. Yes it is just Kindergarden but in some States it IS required while in others it is 'like' a preschool.
Perhaps once in a while it is fine but not nearly everyweek. It is the attitude of it is just a certain grade so it is fine to keep the child out of school or take them late. What is that telling the child about the importance of school?
it sounds like Dad is able to take more time so he wouldn't have to have the child miss school. Not all NCP want the extra time.
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BeckaLeigh
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That is true. To an extent. Some people just don't want the responsibility, though.
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gr8Dad
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"What is that telling the child about the importance of school?"
That you don't learn EVERYTHING in school, and that while it is important, it is not the end all be all?
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Tweeby
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Once in a while is fine. In some States there are truancy laws where if a child misses so many days (without a medical excuse) than the parents can be brought up in charges? Of course that IS if the school district pursues it and many districts do.
Remember my husband recieved custody mainly because the BM wasn't sending the children to school. I don't mind the kids missing a a couple of 'playing hookie days' but the kids have to earn it and it is perhaps once or twice a year. Something special could make it a few days but it will have to be special. Missing or tardy for 8 days in less than 3 months of school is not acceptable to MANY parents (without a medical excuse).
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