ssmom79
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OMG my SD has a 15 year old friend just blasted on FB that she is four months pregnant, has no idea the father, and is ready to raise her baby right.
SIGH....I think there should be a ban on marriages before 25.
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Miranda
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Totally agree. It is all the stupid reality TV shows on TV right now. The 5 hour "Kardashian" fake wedding drama,"my super sweet" shows, and all the other BS shows on TLC.
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spinnerdegrassi
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[quote]Totall disagree. 99.9% of 17-18 year olds haven't a clue. I have two at home. I cannot imagine them making a life altering decision like marriage at this age. [/quote]
I can't imagine most making that decision these days until 30
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ssmom79
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UGH those wedding shows make me gag. It's just a waste to me. All the money dumped into a day.
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Miranda
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[quote]OMG my SD has a 15 year old friend just blasted on FB that she is four months pregnant, has no idea the father, and is ready to raise her baby right.
SIGH....I think there should be a ban on marriages before 25. [/quote]
That should be illegal. My husband's ex had a baby at 14, that was then raised as her brother, and her life has been effed up ever since. Sad, sad, sad.
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Sherron
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"That should be illegal."
Yeah, that should fix it...
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javajunkiee
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This concept is so foreign to me... I sit here shaking my head because I just don't get it. If you're mature/strong enough to get married you should be mature/strong enough to not NEED (emphasis on need) your parents approval. If their approval is that crucial to the couple, they shouldn't get married.
This situation sounds like the kids are after the $$, and as Kiwi says, "The Day", like they're in some romantic Us Against The World tragedy.
If it wasn't about that, they'd just say they were doing it, then DO IT, whether their parents sat out the ceremony or not, and focus on making it work on.their.own after the fact. IMO Mommy and Daddy's approval wouldn't mean much if it didn't also represent $$$.
I swear that half the time I think adults do, or don't do, things based on whether their parents approve because they know the funds to bail them out will dry up if they go against their parents.
Stand on your own damn two feet, accept the consequences of your actions, and let go of the damn safety net! Grow up or stay a "child".
Sorry - going off on a tangent here. This type of foolishness by kids and parents just bugs the daylights out of me.
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M5M5
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Yup! ITA. I'm going by the really SAD history they have with mistreating this girl.
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Debbie_L
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While I agree these young marriages don't usually work out, sometimes they do.
My nephew knocked up his 16 year old girlfriend and they got married. I thought it would never work. It is now almost 15 years later and they have a wonderful marriage and 3 great kids (super well behaved and helpful - it's almost sickening for those of us who had more "normal" teens, lol).
My parents got married when my mom was 15 (and pregnant with my oldest sister). They have now been married 57 years.
I don't recommend or endorse young people getting married, but there are cases where it does work out. Wouldn't it be best for the parents to hope for that, and be there for their kids if/when it does fail? Of course I would be recommending that my kid not get married, but if her mind was made up and she wouldn't listen all I could do is wish the best for her (and be there when needed). I also wouldn't put up any cash (but I don't believe in that no matter how old the kid is).
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Cassie23
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I have two kids who are amazingly mature for their ages, so maybe that's part of the problem. Although I would not want them to get married young, I am not going to tell them they are too young when they aren't too young to join the military. They are both adult decisions and I have to leave it to them to make the BEST decision for them.
My parents, specifically my mother, for example- often persuaded me not to follow my heart. If I would have listened entirely I would have been living a her home for years and not doing anything but working and contributing to her lifestyle.
Unless we want to start raising age limits on voting and joining the military then I don't think we can say an 18 year old is too young for much...
Of course I was married very young, so I guess that might have something to do with it too :)
I will say, however, for the few years in Indiana it seemed like 80% of the kids that married were just out of HS and in their first two years of college. I have several of them on my FB and here we are 5 years later and still married...
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