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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: ssmom79]
      #771708 - 12/20/11 12:28 PM

My guess would be that she is pissed, because now she doesn't have EOW free anymore? One of those Oh crap moments...yes I said he could move...but i wasn't thinking about all the times he takes the kid moments....Now could be wrong, she lives with parents...but just how much do her parents want to babysit?
So that free weekend of hey let's go have a drink, chase other men, or shack up with the boyfriend on her free weekend is now gone.

She has lost instant babysitter... so now I will screw with him moments.

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: cpnebraska]
      #771718 - 12/20/11 01:04 PM

I purposely did not state the sex of each party.
NCP is the mom
Cp is the dad.

She has seen DS every time she has come back to visit, which has been quite a few.

Of course she can't do the weekly visits. She was offered this job, which you can not match here, and took it after discussing it with him.

When in town she takes DS 99% of the time she is here.

I can only state what I know and or see.

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: cpnebraska]
      #771719 - 12/20/11 01:04 PM

CP stated that since NCP moved out of state their custody agreement was null and void.

IS this true?

---> No...a Court Order is a Court Order until it has been changed by the Court. If the current CO allows for extended Summer Parenting Time, then the CP has to honor that or be held in Contempt. If it doesn't...then the NCP needs to request a modification.

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: Gecko]
      #771720 - 12/20/11 01:05 PM

It does.
And I forgot to mention the YES NCP would pay for the visits.

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: cpnebraska]
      #771723 - 12/20/11 01:09 PM

But, she's not following the CO?

She's established a new status quo.. which is??? How often are the visits? Etc etc.

I'd still say she'd get the time; however, she'd have to pay for it/arrange for it all. However, it gets tricky when NCP only wants to follow the parts that are CONVENIENT for them.

Speaking from experience, my ex had ZERO chance in hell of getting what he wanted when I did my move. Why? Because he didn't follow the EXISTING order.

And when you DON'T follow it? The CP has a TREMENDOUS chance of going back to court and saying "hey, he/she doesn't take x, y and z" and having the court go "yup, you're right, they don't.. buh bye".

Just sayin'.. in her shoes? I'd start taking every possible minute, in accordance with the CO, from now until summer vacation. Or beat him to the "going to court" punch and get it modified so it's clearly spelled out.


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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: LexieBelle]
      #771727 - 12/20/11 01:17 PM

There is no way to fly a kid from the midwest to the east coast twice a week...not for anyone.

NCP discussed the move with CP and it was OK.
I know that doesn't always mean squat in courts. They did the right thing though. Prior to her move? Every second was of visitation was taken.

NCP was planning a visit to see Cp (see how good of friends they are??) NCP stated they wanted DS to come and they would pay. CP stated it was his vacation. BAER CP is not concerned with NCP seeing DS more.

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: cpnebraska]
      #771729 - 12/20/11 01:18 PM

And I forgot to mention the YES NCP would pay for the visits.

---> It's PARENTING TIME, NOT 'visitation'.

---> Since the NCP moved, then yes...they should be held financially responsible for transportation costs in excess of the original mileage. When the NCP has the Court Order modified, it should also include language to the effect that the CP is responsible to make sure the child gets to the airport/train station/bus station in a timely matter and that if they fail to do so, then they are financially liable for all costs associated in getting the child to the other parent.

---> If your friend is the CP, let them know that it will be cheaper for them to reach an agreement with the other parent regarding long distance parenting time, than to be a jerk and fight it.

---> A typical long distance parenting schedule includes Spring Break, 6 weeks Summer Break and alternating half of the Winter Break. Depending on the exact distances, extended school breaks (aka 3-day holidays) can be added it.

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: cpnebraska]
      #771730 - 12/20/11 01:20 PM

what did they document for post-move visitation?

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: LexieBelle]
      #771731 - 12/20/11 01:20 PM

If the CP was this big of an a-hole I would document their "opinion" I shouldn't get to see my kid and then file to modify the agreement to get no less than half the summer and any other extended parenting time I could get etched in there. If the CP is willing to be this big of jerkwad over 2 weeks now its gonna be a long 13 years without a strongly worded custody agreement.

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Re: NCP move out of state [Re: Gecko]
      #771733 - 12/20/11 01:23 PM

When you are THAT far long distance? You're VISITING.

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