Sherron
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"Nope, just your typical little semantics game."
I understand a phrase differently than you do, not sure what makes that a game...
"In MOST custody cases, it denotes the LESSOR wage earner, and is used as an EXCUSE to give them full custody."
In most custody cases... cite your source...
"{golf clap}. Now, are you capable of realizing that like MOST of us regulars on this site, our cases are in the MINORITY? "
From my experience, SAHPs are the minority. I'm more than happy to look at your sources that say otherwise...
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M5M5
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The majority do that? How do you know?
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ssmom79
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OR, as the MAJORITY of men do that get 50/50 or PRIMARY, he will move a woman in ASAP so the WOMAN can take care of the child and he doesn't have to.
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The majority of men obtaining 50/50 custody move a woman in asap to avoid being a parent? Is that a stat somewhere? Maybe that's the exception rather than the majority.
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Maury
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"OR, as the MAJORITY of men do that get 50/50 or PRIMARY, he will move a woman in ASAP so the WOMAN can take care of the child and he doesn't have to."
Wow - its only January 6, and that statement is already the hands on favorite to win the "Absurd Statement of the Year" award. Will you be accepting in person?
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Debi
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Not really sure what crawled up your @ss and died, but hopefully you feel better. Doesn't change my opinion one bit though. I am glad that my x and I have had the same opportunity to be parents. We are equal and no matter what anyone says when there is a non-custodial parent they are left out of much of their children's lives. (whether by choice or not.)
If one parent doesn't want the chance to spend equal time with their kids that's one thing, but if both parents do then both parents should be given that opportunity. In my county if one parent is opposed to 50/50 and can't prove the other parent unfit then they are the NCP. All it takes is one parent to want it and it will be granted. Eventually it WILL become the norm just like joint legal custody became the norm in most places.
I will not deny that there are some parents who do not want that much involvemnet, but that is a completely different story. If they do then they will make sure the child is comfortable, taken care of and work to make both homes as similar as possible as far as routines go.
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When we were together, you said you'd die for me. Now, I think it's time you kept your promise.
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M5M5
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I couldn't agree more, Debi!
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Eve
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This may be a bit off topic, but I have an observation and a question. I taught elementary school for many years, and it was not at all uncommon for the female teachers that were new moms or even teachers that had toddlers to feel sick at work from missing their kids. These moms would tell me they would cry on Sunday nights, knowing they had to bring their baby or toddler to day care on Monday, or leave them home with a sitter. I asked one young mom why she didn't have pics of her two toddlers on her desk, and she said she couldn't because it made her sick to see their photos when she wanted to be home with them. These women had to work to keep food on the table. Do men feel this way to this degree? I know the maternal instinct may be stronger in some women than in others, but I, for one, could never have handed off my two, three, or even four year old, every other week to their father.
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M5M5
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You could could if you had to. We all do things we do not like or or want to do.
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SRS
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You have to do - what you have to do. Sure, it hurts to wonder what your kids are up to when they aren't with you, but you survive and so do they.
Imagine what the NCP goes through daily.
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ssmom79
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Yes, my husband still gets sad when his kids leave to back to their mom's house. My SK's are now 17 and 14. They were 3 and 6 when their parents divorced. We have 50/50 and he still has what I call a transition day when he goes from having the kids to not having them. I assume lots of fathers feel the same way their parental counterparts feel.
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