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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: Sadie]
      #773714 - 01/10/12 04:53 PM

[quote]for a while your dd may need to be proactive and keep her belongings in her room, and keep the door locked. If the other girls are stealing, and their father wants to turn a blind eye, that is really the only remedy. I also would be doiung bag checks, if they dont like it too bad then they must have something to hide [/quote]

Totally agree. Bag checks are a good idea.

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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: Sherron]
      #773716 - 01/10/12 05:05 PM

I wouldn't say that he believes his dd over me, but he won't believe my dd over his. He would expect that if I witnessed the stealing first hand that I would handle it with his kids.

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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: sedwards]
      #773732 - 01/10/12 06:22 PM

I did reverse bag checks when my ss and sd came (before they lived with us) because bm would say so and so brought this over and YOU as in me did not return it so when they showed up I bag checked and at first they're like hey don't do that and then when bm out right accused me of taking sd earrings and sd knew that was not true because sd loaned them to her friend but of course to bm me of all evil stole them uh huh whatever... bm is a drama inducing twit who must have drama to survive she is addicted to it - instead of crack it is drama - we learned to protect ourselves early on ;)

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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: annieo]
      #773735 - 01/10/12 06:41 PM

"I wouldn't say that he believes his dd over me, but he won't believe my dd over his. He would expect that if I witnessed the stealing first hand that I would handle it with his kids."

Since you're the only person who would know who owns what because you're the one who buys it all, why don't your back your dd and speak up for her?


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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: Sherron]
      #773738 - 01/10/12 06:54 PM

I do address it when I actually see them wearing something that isn't theirs, but usually it is my dd saying that they took something from her after they have already left the house and they are smart enough now not to wear these items around me or her anymore. If it's not clothing it is hair product, hair dryers, bras, etc. Items that can't be seen.

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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: sedwards]
      #773739 - 01/10/12 07:02 PM

Then I guess she will have to keep everything in her room and remember to lock her door. It sucks, but as long as your dh is not willing to address it and keeps blowing it off, it's the only control she has over this.

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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: sedwards]
      #773745 - 01/10/12 07:38 PM

I'd put a lock on her door.

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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: sedwards]
      #773746 - 01/10/12 07:39 PM

I'd suggest that she keep a laundry basket in her room for her dirty clothes, and that she be responsible for doing her laundry.

I'd also set her up with a small desk and mirror in her room so things like her bathroom stuff can be kept in there.

If she doesn't lock her door, then that's on her.


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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: youngatheart]
      #773748 - 01/10/12 07:52 PM

A nanny cam would be so much more fun

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Re: Stealing Clothes [Re: youngatheart]
      #773755 - 01/10/12 09:01 PM

The fault should not be on the victim, even if that is the simplest solution. I would be going through all bags and backpacks and when I found out who was stealing then that person would be delt with. maybe the sds need to be banished to public areas of the house, where they can be watched.

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