Debi
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You are reaching so far over your head you are about to get a nose bleed. We are not talking about a case of DV, neglect or abuse. We are talking about children who say they don't want parenting time with their father because their mother is putting in their head that's what they want. No judge is going to ask a 7 yo if they want to stop seeing one of their parents. and no court advocate is going to ask if they want to stop seeing a parent.
Except in extreme cases it is NEVER in the best interest of the child to cut off a relationship with one of their parents. This does not appear to be an extreme case. Rocco has parenting time, unsupervised by what I gather so it doesn't sound as if the judge who heard the orginal case had any questions about his ability to parent.
You can't give advice in this case based on "extreme cases".
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Renny
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[quote]There is a difference between testifying and having "a say on the parenting arrangements". [/quote]
My original comment was: "At 9 and 11 they have some say in what their best interests are and getting into any altercation with them exposes you to DV charges."
I was clearly referring to the kids testifying in a DV case which could be based on assault, battery, unlawful restraint and so on that Rocco might get himself into by forcing his PAS kids to go with him. At 9 and 11 they are definitely old enough to be heard by the judge and have some say in what their best interests are. If they are affected by PAS and are coached by their mother, I would think twice before forcing them to do anything.
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Sherron
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"At 9 and 11 they are definitely old enough to be heard by the judge and have some say in what their best interests are."
I disagree. Your average 9 and 11 yr old doesn't much understand what is in their best interest, which is why they'd prefer cake for breakfast, skipping school and watching cartoons all night.
If the parent feels it's in the child's best interest not to have parenting time with the other parent, the parent better have more to present in court than "cause my kid said so". And whatever this "more" is, this is what needs to be addressed in court; it is those circumstances that formed the child's opinion that will make the case, not the child's opinion itself.
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gr8Dad
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You are so FOS. UNLAWUL restraint for taking your kids with you? Domestic violence cor making your kids DO stuff? No way, no how, NEVER.
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M5M5
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Reged: 07/29/05
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I was blown away by that statement also. This Renny person is really really...like constantly...giving some pretty screwy advice on here.
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Rocko
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Reged: 10/10/06
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The childrens mother has told me numerous times, the kids should be able to make their schedule. She interferes with my time by telling them fun things to do on my weekends and how they will miss out, enrolling them in sports on my time without talking to me about it. She told the judge she doesn't see any problem with this becuase......."it's what the kids want to do". This mindset forces me, the rational parent, to constantly looked at as the bad guy.
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Redlegg
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I like cake....
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Rocko
journeyman
Reged: 10/10/06
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Well I tried to communicate with her about the tension and stress during the exchange and how we can eliminate it and her response is 'give up one of your weekends'. Back to court.
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