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thisworld
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WIFE LEFT ME 3 WEEKS AGO...VERY DEPRESS
      #775521 - 01/25/12 01:36 PM

My wife left me three weeks ago. She doesn't want to talk. I didn't hit her or cheat on her...it was about money...or I think she might have found another guy.

Anyway...i am depress...barely working...sleep alot...i want to end this pain. I don't think I can get throught this.
Been married for 4 years

I don't know what to do


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Re: WIFE LEFT ME 3 WEEKS AGO...VERY DEPRESS [Re: thisworld]
      #775534 - 01/25/12 03:56 PM

Sorry to hear this has happened. And it is tough..but you have to try and take one moment at a time, day by day.
Counseling may help, church? Family, friends, lean on them for support.

Keep busy, hobbies, exercise anything you can figure out that works for you.

Unfortunately there is that incredible pain and there is no magic cure. You have to try with all your strength to get through this as best you can and what works for some may not work for others.

If you believe that she found another guy then maybe work with that...as painful as it is, if that is the case, self talk to yourself, she may have someone else...she has left...sometimes recognizing the harsh reality that she has found someone else will actually help deal with it. Let her go, she may come around but maybe not.

Right now you need to focus on you and getting through this.

Keep posting the people here can offer some good advice.


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Re: WIFE LEFT ME 3 WEEKS AGO...VERY DEPRESS [Re: thisworld]
      #777316 - 02/09/12 01:24 PM

Quote " it was about money...or I think she might have found another guy. "

Aren't those one and the same thing ?

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Re: WIFE LEFT ME 3 WEEKS AGO...VERY DEPRESS [Re: thisworld]
      #777983 - 02/19/12 08:19 AM

Yes, it's depressing. Many years ago the same happened to me after being married 25 years and she had, in fact, found someone else and ultimately married him. Initially I really wanted to save the marriage but nothing I did or could do brought about that result.

Now, going on 18 years later and looking back, her leaving me turned out to be a gift. I've since married another and am far happier now than I think I ever truly was with the ex.

It's defficult, demoralizing, can leave you with a sense of failure and can shatter your heart while it fills you with self-doubt. That's one reality. The other is, it's survivable, gets better after time and in the end you can be much better off.

It's nowhere near as bad as being married to someone who doesn't fully love yoyu, isn't a true partner and always may have one foot out the door. THAT is true misery.


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Re: WIFE LEFT ME 3 WEEKS AGO...VERY DEPRESS [Re: Curmudgeon]
      #780056 - 03/15/12 12:56 PM

It gets better. Hard to believe but it does. Hang in there and take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if you need to but it does get better.

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Re: WIFE LEFT ME 3 WEEKS AGO...VERY DEPRESS [Re: thisworld]
      #780067 - 03/15/12 04:56 PM

You can get through this. We all have, one day at a time. Yes, you will feel pain. That's normal, you are human. You will go through many emotions, anger, hurt, sadness, denial. Feel them all and then let them go. Find support through friends, family or a counselor.

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