Char9
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/03/05
Posts: 2941
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and getting s*cked into drama. Oldest SD got me so worked up yesterday about her sister that my BP went up. And I was on the way to the Dr. to get my CT scan results. Bad enough I was sick to my stomach about that, but then she calls saying H and I need to help her sister, she needs a "bad azz" lawyer b/c her stbx is being a jerk. So now they expect H to pay for her f*ckin lawyer too? NO! Get in front of a freaking judge and work it out. My health is MORE important than your petty games and crap. I'm going to extricate myself now. My choloresterol is high, and they didn't find anything on the scan. No cancer. So it might be my heart. Great. Just what I need. Enough stress at work and with the skids, something is going to give and I'm not going to let the skids drama make me sicker. :) Going to have a stress echo to find out if it is heart problems. Will keep you posted.
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Gecko
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Reged: 06/01/04
Posts: 19802
Loc: Third rock from the sun
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Char...you bring this on yourself.
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spinnerdegrassi
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Reged: 08/20/06
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You tell older SD
" Hey, we're not spending any of our $$$ on your sister because she was stupid enough to get herself involved in this mess. Tell her to grow the f@ck up and get her own lawyer"
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ssmom79
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Reged: 06/27/07
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Char, you can remove yourself. It takes practice. Make that a goal for a week. Don't allow any conversations about drama. If you hear a conversation is heading that way, find a polite way to end the conversation. Oh, the water is boiling, I've got to go, I'll call you right back. Or I'm in line at the checkout I have to got, I'm sorry, I'll call you back.
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Char9
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Reged: 06/03/05
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Yes, because I actually care and worry. There are children involved. But no more. They have to be adults and figure it out themselves. I will not get upset about it anymore. I am not my mother who thrived on being angry and dramatic. It's not worth it.
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Gecko
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/01/04
Posts: 19802
Loc: Third rock from the sun
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Yes, because I actually care and worry. There are children involved.
---> I'm going to call 'bullcatmonkeyshit'! It's just an excuse to involve yourself in the drama, drama, drama.
I am not my mother who thrived on being angry and dramatic.
---> OBVIOUSLY...you are! It's the SAME thing with you hon...a cycle of extreme highs and extreme lows. If you have any doubts...click on your name and read all your old posts for as far back as you can. One month you are extremely 'high'...involving yourself in your step-daughters' lives, going on and on about how great they are and how great your relationship is with them and all the great things ya'll are doing Then a month later you are extremely 'low'...talking about how ungrateful they are, how they are ruining their lives, how they are abusing your husband financial, yadda yadda yadda.
---> YOU...CHOOSE...to do this to yourself. YOU...do it over and over and over and over and over. STOP!
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spinnerdegrassi
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 08/20/06
Posts: 7947
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Just tell your husband these loser kids aren't allowed in your house until they both have FT jobs and make enough money not to ask your husband for bailouts.
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kkimberh
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Reged: 03/24/10
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I'm really sorry for you Char. My sister is going through something very similar w/ her husband's girls. I know how hard it can be to detach yourself, no matter how much you want to. Hugs and prayers and good thoughts to you...
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