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OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen
      #777416 - 02/10/12 06:51 PM

I totally support what this guy did. Along with the fact that he has total media sources that he and his family is NOT interested in being interviewed or being on their show or having their own show or anything else.

youtube.com/watch?v=kl1ujzRidmU&feature=g-logo&context=G211453bFOAAAAAAADAA

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Gecko]
      #777418 - 02/10/12 07:55 PM

I thnk the guy was an idiot and needs anger management.....I totally support what he did in regards to the video taping...I totally support him putting his foot down on his teens behavior.. but instead of pumping 6 rounds into a damn laptop, he should of found a home in need of one... and given it to them.... what he did was a total waste for only his self justification....And if I had done that... and then told my daughter that she owed me for the bullets... her response would of been..."wow, aren't you cool... you just spent 130.00 to fix my laptop and then you waste it... why not give it to a family? And the $6.00 I owe you for the bullets? Uh.. I don't think so... I didn't "make" you use those bullets, you decided to waste them.. your problem"...... and you know... she would of been right.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Runswithscissors]
      #777421 - 02/10/12 09:14 PM

I totally support it as well and wish more parents would parent and not be a friend not to mention it sounds like she has a decent life and a father who cares whereas many children have neither.

Yes he could have donated it but as far as his own self justification I WISH more parents would use some of this type of self justification with their children and maybe if things were taken away (not given back, too soon or ever, i.e. taking a phone, electronics, or what have you) and/or grounding and discipline our younger generation would not be so me me me me and my parents be damned.

When my son would leave a video game on the floor for the umpteenth time I finally told him that every one I find on the ground I will break in half and toss it in the garbage - I tried to take them for a while and give back but he knew he would get it back - several were broken before he finally kept them picked up and I NEVER replace them even as a gift - he has to replace what ever one it was if he wants it again and he doesn't have a whole lot of $$$ - he's ten. He has a place for them so there is NO reason not to put them up...

Maybe I am to harsh but at least my child knows I am his PARENT and not his friend and he is learning from it and I don't have to lay a hand on him nor do I have to yell at him. He is very well behaved and everyone who meets him says he is so nice, sweet, kind, respectful, helpful, and a joy to be around not to mention creative and intuitive. He knows he has a safe place to fall and that we will always be here for him and that we do as we say we will and do not make promises we cannot or do not plan to keep, but most of all that we are his parents and we love him to infinity and beyond (that's what we all say - I love you to infinity and beyond). He can be a little sh!t sometimes and has a little bit of a sassy mouth at the moment but we are working on that.

got off on a tangent ;) I just want to see more parents, parenting...


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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: annieo]
      #777422 - 02/10/12 10:01 PM

I agree on parents being parents... and it's up to us to do it correctly...

my self justification would of been to give it away... find a home or a child in need for education.... I would of shown my child that her selfish behavior cost her, her laptop.... but in I am also showing her I am a responsible parent who makes good decisions vs... putting 6 rounds and totally screwing HER, ME and a family out of a laptop.... He could of used those bullets on a target.... LOL... not a laptop.... The laptop would of gone to greater use... if given away...

LIke I said, my kids would of laughed at me if I did that.... and I don't blame them....


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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Runswithscissors]
      #777445 - 02/11/12 01:28 PM

Hmmmm...so he needs anger management SOLELY because he destroyed the laptop instead of giving it away?!?

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: annieo]
      #777446 - 02/11/12 01:40 PM

Yes he could have donated......

---> No...he couldn't because the message wouldn't have been the same. Oh sure...you could say, "If you aren't going to take care of yourself, then we'll give it to someone who will.", but the overall impact isn't the same if you have been brought up in a charitable household of 'waste not/want not'. Because then, even though YOU have 'lost' your item, you can 'feel good' that it has gone to someone else. But to have your 'bad' behavior lead to the destruction of something perfectly good...that someone else could have used...reinforces that what you did was wrong.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Gecko]
      #777448 - 02/11/12 01:57 PM

Yep....he has issues and I assume she's learned from his behavior.....

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Runswithscissors]
      #777456 - 02/11/12 06:53 PM

Not my style of parenting, but to each his own. i'd rather see this than the namby-pamby "nothing my kid does wrong is his/her fault" crap I usually hear.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Gecko]
      #777461 - 02/11/12 07:44 PM

I agree with everything he did and why he did it.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: M5M5]
      #777467 - 02/11/12 11:00 PM

He had my vote up until the point he killed a perfectly good laptop. It's never a bad idea to have an "Oh Sh*t Spare" on hand, especially if you're an IT person. To kill it over some teenager being a self-absorbed twit ?

Total waste of technology.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: javajunkiee]
      #777468 - 02/12/12 12:34 AM

I personally wouldn't do that (I can't afford to do it)...but if he can afford to shoot a good laptop...more power to him. I keep thinking he is not exactly poor? I don't know that for sure, just the feeling I got.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: M5M5]
      #777473 - 02/12/12 08:13 AM

There's that too. The cost of the laptop, and I was wondering what software could he be buying for $130 bucks that his kid absolutely has to have? You can get virus protection a heckuva lot cheaper, and being the kid of an IT person, she should know better than to click on strange stuff anyways.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: javajunkiee]
      #777474 - 02/12/12 09:39 AM

I think the 'laptop murder' was for effect. The point was to mke it clear to her facebook friends that she is NOT a slave, she is NOT badly treated. And that if you choose a certain media to boadcast about your poor widdle liddle life then it is likely your IT Dad will respond in kind.
She will not get to buy back/ get the laptop ever again. All her work is gone. She will be back to pen and paper for a while.
If she had a car it is like he took it and got it crushed.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: KiwiGirl]
      #777475 - 02/12/12 10:08 AM

Eh, backwoods trailer living redneck. He's a smoker so he's already a sh!tty role model for his kid.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: spinnerdegrassi]
      #777477 - 02/12/12 10:56 AM

How do you show her friends she's not badly mistreated by pumping rounds into her laptop? So, my daughter is a brat, she's lied... and imma gonna show her I mean business with "violence".... I don't get his logic... again... I totally SUPPORT the video and him putting his laptop down... but I would of done something along the lines of "its apparent you are a spoild child, who needs to be taught a lesson.... and it's evident you take this laptop for granted, so I am going to give it to a family that needs it, respects it and will put it to productive use".... if he had done that... I would applaud him totally....

And Spinner... I liked the billy badass cig.... I was thinking "you rock, Tommy".... LOL!! and I agree smoking is nasty as shyt..... I was in the grocery store this morning and a man/woman walked by me... I almost vomitted.... nasty ass people smelling like smoke.... UGH!! I am so glad my hubs stopped.... I stayed on top of him telling him that he smelled like shyt and he's setting a horrible example for his son.....


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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Gecko]
      #777489 - 02/12/12 12:16 PM

I have no issue with him shooting the laptop. I said yes he could have given it away but it would not have (imo) sent a strong enough message and I assume he got his point across.

I have broken more than one expensive video game because my son knew if I took them away he would get them back and doing as I did had the desired affect and it is rare now that one is ever found on the floor anymore. Had I given his away or even donated them I doubt it would have had the same affect. I personally would have a difficult time destroying a laptop (given the cost). I would keep it for the "oh sh!t mine is having issues and would be great to have a spare."

I have threatened to sell my son's XBox 360 but normally just take it away and it was happening so much at one point that I started just taking away the little tv it was hooked up to - much easier then taking everything that goes with the 360. I probably wouldn't destroy it because I like a few of the games =)


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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: javajunkiee]
      #777493 - 02/12/12 01:20 PM

and I was wondering what software could he be buying for $130 bucks that his kid absolutely has to have

---> He was upgrading, could have been Windows or Office.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Gecko]
      #777511 - 02/12/12 08:16 PM

[quote]and I was wondering what software could he be buying for $130 bucks that his kid absolutely has to have

---> He was upgrading, could have been Windows or Office. [/quote]

Ah... yes. I tend to forget there are people who have to feed the Microsoft Machine, lol.

Although an IT dude not avoiding the costs by going to a linux distro for his kids personal laptop is kind of a waste of $ too.

(...maybe that's the real reason he shot the laptop. He got tired of the stupid security updates, LMAO)

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Gecko]
      #777514 - 02/12/12 09:38 PM

My SD showed this to hubby tonight. Said he would do something like that if she wrote something like that, plus my hubby is in IT and we have tracking software on all computers. I'm sure he wouldn't kill the computer but it was a nice effect for his slave of a daughter. Love he added an extra bullet for Mom. Lol. Nice bonus.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: ssmom79]
      #777528 - 02/13/12 02:23 AM

I might have given the laptop to the 'cleaning lady' and I wouldn't have smoked in the video, but on the whole....I like his style.

And.....Damn ! He was CUTE !


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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: finz]
      #777546 - 02/13/12 08:54 AM

I 10000% agree with what he did and how he handled it. Kids need to learn respect for their parents. I'll bet she won't be whining again for a LONG time. LOL. Great job Dad!

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Char9]
      #777643 - 02/14/12 12:48 PM

The shame of having your Dad on a VIRAL You Tube VIDEO blasting away at your laptop will be something the kid will NOT get over soon. MUCH more effective than giving the laptop away to some needy family.

There's not a person in her school or heck, even TOWN that doesn't know her now--LOL!! Her social life is pretty much OVER for awhile.

The Dad did it for impact value only, and it sure did IMPACT!!

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: c_jane]
      #777654 - 02/14/12 02:59 PM

The shame of having your Dad on a VIRAL You Tube VIDEO blasting away at your laptop will be something the kid will NOT get over soon.

---> Why not? It's not like he shot the thing while she was holding it...or even in front of her.

---> From what I have heard, the daughter is MORE upset over the negative comments her father has received than what he did to her laptop.

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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: Gecko]
      #777656 - 02/14/12 03:16 PM

She's THAT GIRL now. That girl who's dad shot her laptop. Does she have a name, I only know her as that girl.

I have a THAT BOY. That boy who got kicked out of the academy for having drugs in his shoe. Four years later and he is still, 'oh that kid'.


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Re: OT - Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen [Re: ssmom79]
      #777662 - 02/14/12 03:58 PM

Her name is Hannah Jordan.

The father, Tommy Jordan, was visited by the local cops and CPS (but of course). No charges filed or anything.

I kind of get a kick out of the fact that while the vast majority of people totally support the father, the media has been focusing on the few that don't.

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