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That is what I thought.
I am going to quit my job soon so I can have a baby and be around more for my daughter. I want to change the schedule to something that works with my new arrangement.
1. Is MY change of situation enough for THEM to justify appealing for a custody change? I know I am justified but are they? Especially since they just made a change last fall.
2. Who can I talk to for advice of a good schedule considering my and my ex's situation that would be accepted by a judge? The ex and I don't see eye to eye now and I think I could use some good advice.
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Renny
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Out of curiosity, what state is this in?
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crumb
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Utah
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gr8Dad
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So you want to complain about HIM changing the schedule, while at the same time, you are PLANNING on changing the schedule yourself?
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I am going to quit my job soon so I can have a baby and be around more for my daughter. I want to change the schedule to something that works with my new arrangement.
1. Is MY change of situation enough for THEM to justify appealing for a custody change? I know I am justified but are they? Especially since they just made a change last fall.
Your life choices don't justify you asking for a change in custody. If one parent files for a change in custody then it opens up the other parent to counterfile. it doesn't matter that they made the change last fall. They are not initiating a change right now.
Maybe speak to a GAL or court social worker and get ideas of schedules that commonly work. Do not however expect to get 50/50 changed at this point. You just agreed to it by signing the paperwork you signed and again your life choices are not a valid reason for a custody change.
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Renny
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I checked the Utah family law forms and from what I gather the parties can stipulate to a change of custody, but there must be an order signed by the judge. There must be such an order on file in your case. I would be surprised if the parties could change custody without a court order signed by a judge.
quote" 1. Is MY change of situation enough for THEM to justify appealing for a custody change? I know I am justified but are they? Especially since they just made a change last fall." quote
Are you afraid your ex will ask for more custody because you are going to have a baby? You may be overthinking this. Best to consult with an attorney. Go to the Utah State Courts website. Legal help is available.
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[quote]So you want to complain about HIM changing the schedule, while at the same time, you are PLANNING on changing the schedule yourself? [/quote]
They are dissatisfied with the schedule. I am ok with the current although I would like more time which isn't likely going to happen. They will not stop until a change is made and they don't factor me in to the process at all. They tend to dictate to me what is going to happen and expect me to go along. I would just like to come up with a schedule that works for everybody and that will account for my change in situation.
I was asking the question about the justification to better understand my options.
1. If he is unlikely to justify a change and we cannot come to an agreement I would likely keep the schedule as is.
2. If he can justify changing the schedule since I am not going to be working then I will do my best to make sure we have a schedule that works for me and get the best lawyer we can afford.
by the way, thanks for all the constructive help!
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[quote]I am going to quit my job soon so I can have a baby and be around more for my daughter. I want to change the schedule to something that works with my new arrangement. [/quote]
And you're complaining that he wants to do the same thing. @@@ I don't think that you quitting your job is a good reason to strip custody away from him. If he quits or loses his job, are you going to hand over custody to him?
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