LexieBelle
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No, don't need one to feel complete. I have to say, over the years, I've probably accomplished far more when NOT with a man, than WITH one. My first husband would be an exception BUT, I also did not make my marriage my priority, quite frankly. I was very young and I was building a career. Thank goodness I did :):)
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LeAnne
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I do think that I have changed Matt as far as him completing his life. He does more things for himself because I push him too.
Like the stuff we do for kids, Matt was like do what? Santa House what? He went from thinking I was crazy to really having a blast. He drives the mule that pulls the sleigh for 5 hours, then he wanted to have bells to ring as he drives, then he added the stereo for Christmas Music, then he wanted a Santa Hat...it has turned him into a jolly old soul.
He has become more out going, he loves to go on little weekend trips.
He never really got to do much as a kid, child abuse, alcoholic dad, pentecostal church, no band no sports, just sad really.
Our first Christmas together, I spent a ton of money in Christmas lights, he had our place decorated like the North Pole...it was like he got to do the childhood he never got.
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ssmom79
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[quote]General reply:
Do you have to have a man to feel complete? To feel you've done something with your life? [/quote]
No. My hubby complements me. But he does not complete me. Having a hubby is not an accomplishment. It's a privilege to share my life with him.
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MrsB
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Great way to word it! Agree:)
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RJ1
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In life, one size does not fit all. We are all different. :)
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M5M5
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Totally agree. Life would be pretty darn lonely without my husband in it. He is my best friend and boy...he sure does make me laugh (always...he's a nut). Just the other day, I had someone ask if we had been married long (as in...are we still in the honeymoon phase?). I told her we've been married for almost 12 years and every year is better than the one before. She was SHOCKED that we had been married so long and still be lovey dovey. I felt kind of bad for HER, that she doesn't have that.
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Loretta
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[quote]Totally agree. Life would be pretty darn lonely without my husband in it. He is my best friend and boy...he sure does make me laugh (always...he's a nut). Just the other day, I had someone ask if we had been married long (as in...are we still in the honeymoon phase?). I told her we've been married for almost 12 years and every year is better than the one before. She was SHOCKED that we had been married so long and still be lovey dovey. I felt kind of bad for HER, that she doesn't have that. [/quote]
I love it! When we were in Indonesia someone said something similar to me...then made a reference that most people are bored with each other after that long. I said "He facinates me." then she gasped and said "Still?" LOL, um yes, he does.
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Loretta
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[quote]General reply:
Do you have to have a man to feel complete? To feel you've done something with your life? [/quote]
Only single people ask this silly question. Of course a man doesn't "complete" you. I agree with the response of "He compliments me". We have so much fun together. I spent 2 years single (3 before I married). I loved taking care of myself and my kids (no cs), I was in a good place mentally, didn't have a lot of extra money, but life was good. I was complete. Having my husband in my life is like having my cake and eating it too! My mom is complete being alone. She's been widowed 4 years. She would like a companion again. Just someone to share and smile at the little things with.
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SRS
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That is how I feel RJ. I've been single for the better part of 20 years. Of course, I date on and off. But, I don't think everyone is made to couple off.
Some are and some aren't.
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elliesmom
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No - I knew that once I was content with myself enough to not care if I ever found "the one" that I was ready (if someone came along) to actually get married. People who try to complete themselves with someone else - end up divorced. Because no one can (or wants to, yuck).
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Forgiveness is...letting go of the hope that the past can be changed.
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