ssmom79
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[quote]I think, for the record, you are more right than wrong in your observations. Many here have said they would NOT do it again.. if things were so fabulous and wonderful it'd be "hellll yeahhhh!!! I love my man, we're fabulous and nothing else matters!!" [/quote]
HAIL YEA I'd do it again.....the 'drama' I've dealt with is just a drop in the bucket compared to the good. And I can't really call it drama because there are people here who deal with so much worse drama or issues with an ex.
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Cassie23
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I think that's what I was trying to say in the other thread or where ever it is now. The little things, heck even the big things don't bother us like they used to. With what I have seen out there in the real world, I realize that I was my biggest enemy this whole time. Of course, now that BM has been 100% out of our lives for almost two years probably pretty easy to say. Anyway, I am just blessed to have the family I do- immediate and extended. Some of the kids I have seen in prison will be out in a couple of months and they have NO where to go. No family, no friends- nothing. I have more than most, I shouldn't be anything but grateful. I also believe that everything happens for a reason, so I am exactly where I am suppose to be!
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spinnerdegrassi
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It's very simple. Make good choices, have a good life.
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ssmom79
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I do use more reserved judgement for people who come to the forum with problems. I do recommend that some to cut and run. That's because I am not like everyone else, I can handle a lot, I'm really go with the flow and flexible. I think that's important if you're going to be married to someone with kids from someone else. There are going to be surprises, shakeups and even some drama sometimes.
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ssmom79
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Or make bad choices, learn from them, and still have a happy life.
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MrsB
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[quote]Or make bad choices, learn from them, and still have a happy life. [/quote]
AMEN :):)
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spinnerdegrassi
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[quote]Or make bad choices, learn from them, and still have a happy life. [/quote]
I'd rather skip over the bad choices, that way I don't have to waste time on them. Thus if I make a good choice on who to marry the first time, I get to be happy from the start.
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LexieBelle
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We are all extremely thrilled you are perfect Spinner :):)
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RJ1
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I can't imagine being tied to that man for the rest of my life.
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And it is for life. My BFF recognized a growing trend among her friends of unsuccessful parents losing jobs and homes and moving in with their children. Made me think about my ex possibly doing that one day...moving in with our son. Ewww.
I just read an article that stated 49% of all adults over age 18 are single and that it is growing. I think what a lot of people don't realize is that for some of these singletons it is a choice to be single. No need to feel sorry for them, or give advice to go out and date, or think marrieds are better than singletons, or to even think singletons are not getting any. In a lot of cases, most people CHOOSE to stay single. Marriage is losing steam it seems. I wonder if it is because a lot of women are financially capable of taking care of themselves now and don't need men for financial reasons? I wonder if it's because of the 50% divorce rate that scares people off? I wonder if some have been married and hated it? Interesting for sure.
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LeAnne
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From what I see they are playing married, shacking up like marriage and having kids. Makes for one heck of a tax return for the woman with kids. Or dude shacks up with a welfare queen, she gets the free HUD, Foodstamps, free medical, and he moves in, not known to the governement with his paycheck and they all live pretty darn good.
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