LexieBelle
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Reged: 11/07/10
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PUT THE PANTS IN THE MAIL! Very simple, MATURE solution and you'd better get used to it. you're going to be living far away. AND, be prepared? That the other parent probably WON'T when it's something left behind that you need/want. You learn to either do without, or just replace it.
You have to learn, quickly, how to adjust. Now me? I'll spend $15 to fedex overnight a handmade card dd made in school the Friday before Father's Day. I'll remind several times dd has left something behind she REALLY wants/misses and it'll never get sent. You just learn to accept people as they are and what they will/won't do. Not going to change them, so better learn how to work around them.
You're going to make this a REALLY hard transition if you keep this up.
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SRS
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 11/05/10
Posts: 2161
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Oh yeah - that's right. You expect BM to come up with the custody schdule since you texted her one and she disagrees that you should have the entire summer.
Oh yeah - your timeframes for what happened and posting about meeting with the lawyer didn't quite mesh, btw.
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Nicole
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Reged: 01/25/05
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The reason DH hasn't called because they never communicate that way. It is always by text message either via me or him. It is just what we are all use to that. It is very rare that she calls to talk to DH or he calls to talk to her. They might call each other phones to talk to the kids but rarely rarely to each other. It is just not what is normal for him to do. But I did just txt him and mentioned that he should try calling and see if she picks up and if not leave a nice message saying he would like to tell the skids bye and get their baseball stuff too them.
BTW, BM sent me the friend request on facebook, not vice versa.
I don't think we are being immature. We are trying to handle all of this as best as we can. It was fast for her, it was fast for us. We had to make a lot of decisions at lightening speed and I never said any of it was easy.
And to say he is leaving his kids in the dust in disgusting. He fought hard for skids during the divorce, he put up with a lot of really bad things from her during the divorce to try to keep him away. He cried too many times to count when he thought she would never let him see them again. His world is his family. He loves those kids. And it wasn't like he decided one day, ok I am just going to move away and maybe never see them again. This was a decision that took him years to even consider. I could never write enough words to decribe what his kids mean to him. And some of you wouldn't believe me anyways because you think he is just up and going away and wanting to forget about them. No. Not the case. And no one on here can say anything to change that. You can be mean, nasty, and cruel all you want but the ones that hate could never understand how much he loves and adores them.
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Nicole
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Reged: 01/25/05
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Oh my goodness. Did I not say repeatedly how many times that we did not expect her to come up with one. She said she was working on one that she though was fair. We never asked her too but we were going to wait to see what she came up with and see if it was something we could work with. But she never did. Which is why DH went ahead and filed with the lawyer.
I don't know what you are talking about time frames. These past three week or two weeks or how ever long its been has been a whirlwind. But I can state date by date what happened and when things went down.
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LexieBelle
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 11/07/10
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if he loved and adored them THAT much? HE WOULD NOT BE MOVING. What happened to "we got two weeks notice"?? Now it's he's had YEARS to consider it? WTF is that??? Okayyyy so he's had YEARS to plan for another job that would NOT REQUIRE HIM TO MOVE.
Disguise it, justify it, defend it all you want.. but it is what it is. You can try to sew a sow's ear in to a silk purse all you want, it's still a sow's ear sweetheart.
One problem with telling tales? You have to keep them straight.. ask MrsB. And you're having a hard time keeping track of the defenses you've made. And the cracks are showing. REALLY badly.
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onerose
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 12/30/05
Posts: 3151
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OMG! I just realized…Nicole is the new JL!!! LOL
Sorry, but you are the new target.
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SRS
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 11/05/10
Posts: 2161
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Yes, yes, I'm sure BM forced you to stalk her FB this weekend to prove that she wasn't where she said she was. I blocked my ex from even searching me on FB. I'd defriend her and not mention it. No sense in causing drama, where there doesn't need to be.
He needs to man up and call the woman he had children with. Sure, it may not be the status quo. By moving away, HE changed the status quo.
WHy do you have to text him to let him know to call BM? I just don't understand that. He's an adult father for heavens sake.
I thought you moved this weekend - based on your posts from last week. SO, your posts last week aout having to quit your job, house hunt and move last week weren't quite accurate it seems. Perhaps the move isn't quite as fast as you wanted people here to believe.
He is leaving his kids to better his career. He had 50/50 custody. THat is awesome, I wish my kids Dad would have asked for 50/50. But the father of your child has made the decision to leave his children to provide a better life for you and your child. Suck it up buttercup.
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Nicole
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Reged: 01/25/05
Posts: 1762
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Well let me explain myself before you assume. For two years prior his company has wanted him to be a manager. Has asked him over and over to go through the training. He knew it would be a great start for him but didn't want to have to move which is one of the things you agree to when you sign the contract to start the training. So for 2 years, yes years, he was offered this training, but he turned it down. Last May he enetered the training, he completed it in August which is when he met with BM about us possibly moving. He was offered a job in November that would take us 12 hours away. He turned it down. He was offered this job at the beginning of this month. I don't lie.
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LexieBelle
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 11/07/10
Posts: 3680
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Oh good lord. Why does someone have to be a "target"? Soooo some people agree/defend, some people disagree.. umm... isn't that NORMAL??? WTF??
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Nicole
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Reged: 01/25/05
Posts: 1762
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Whatever. I know what is true in my heart.
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