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AFreshStart
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Ex is deployed

#778909 - 03/03/12 10:23 AM

My ex just deployed the other day. He sent me a letter telling me that all communication was to be sent to his home address and that he didn't want to received anything addressed from my at his deployed address. I wasn't planning on sending him anything any way. If our daughters want to send him something they have to send it to his home address where his wife will forward it to him as quickly as possible. He also told me that his wife had his POA and would be handling all financial matters.

Shouldn't he have to give me his deployed address? I don't even know what unit he is with.

He is basically telling me that I have to go thru his wife to talk to him about the girls if I need too.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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Re: Ex is deployed

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#778960 - 03/04/12 04:52 PM

I would (unless there is some reason like his wife is a dangerous person) do as he asks and document what you've sent just in case there is a question later about what was or wasn't sent.

I can't speak for your ex's unit, but for example we were limited to x number of packages we could send during a deployment. So I gathered items from everyone and sent it in 1 box. The USPS was notoriously unreliable (sometimes guys got letters/packages months after they got home) so using the military's service was better (and free).

If anything comes up that requires his consent, his wife could in theory sign for it on his behalf. And she also can make the difficult decisions of what to tell him. I mean - some bad news is bad, but not bad enough to come home. Just bad enough to distract him from his job. So he may feel it is better to have everything filtered through her. My DH and I did the same thing for that reason. Although he didn't tell his ex - he just set up an email address with his name that I monitored and forwarded on to him.

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Re: Ex is deployed

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#784469 - 05/08/12 04:55 PM

I am a military wife, soon to be x-wife. I also would go ahead and do as he asks. If it is an emergency, like the kids are in the hospital, (God forbid) or anything of that nature, you can go through the red cross to get him the message, if you're afraid his current wife won't relay the message.

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