Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
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How is your child support collected? If it is through the state, check with the agency that collects child support, they may collect unreimbursed medical expenses, as well. This way, you submit the bills to them and they go after him for payment.
If it isn't collected through them, I would look into how to get it set up with them. This way, he doesn't get to play these games.
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Miranda
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Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 20822
Loc: North of Mexico
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I would never advise anyone to collect thru the state, especially when the other parent is following the court order as it is. BIlls are reimbursed in 7 days per the court order...get the state involved and it is going to take 30-60 days at least.
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gr8Dad
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Reged: 06/07/04
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That is kinda my feelings on this. He pays his child support on time, he pays the bills within a week. She CHOOSES to engage him during the week, and he "verbally abuses" her (not sure if its "abuse" if you CHOOSE to do it, but I digress).
As a person who hasn't seen child support in YEARS and doesn't even BOTHER to submit medical bills, sounds petty to me.
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Debi
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What unreimbursed medical bills? She said he pays them. She just doesn't like it that he pays on the SEVENTH day (as per the CO) and that there are things he questions and in her words "abuses" her over. The state has better things to do than go after parents who are paying their bills.
Also as Miranda said it will take a lot longer than 7 days to get the money if the state is involved. They are not going to go after a person who hasn't paid in week. They are working on people who haven't paid in months and years.
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yregna
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Reged: 07/25/06
Posts: 1265
Loc: Oregon
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Your ex-husband is ACTING LIKE A TYPICAL WOMAN. Why do you have a problem with that ? Please explain to all of us what it is about his behavior that bothers you ? This is an exact mirror of almost every divorced woman out there...
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Eve
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Reged: 11/28/05
Posts: 112
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i would try to think of some way he would have to pay his share without you having to be involved in his payment. Figure out how much money needs to be in the kids lunch account at school each month. Let's say for little Jimmy, it's $30 a month. Put your $15 in on the first of each month, LET EX KNOW YOU HAVE ALREADY PUT IN YOUR $15, and he needs to put his $15 in the account. If Dad doesn't put his $15 in, let little Jimmy tell his father he needs more in the account, just like he would if you were not divorced.
Basically, find ways to head him off at the pass, so to speak. Find ways to be pro-active, instead of re-active. Guys like this need you to be smarter than they are, so they cannot have any excuses
And you CAN call the court family division and talk to the mediator. Usually you can find their names and numbers right on line in the Family Division section. They are usually very willing to talk to you about the situation. (That's their job.) And can tell you what steps you can take to stop the nonsense he is putting you through. And, if need be, you CAN represent yourself in family court and state your case. This needless stress he is putting you through, is Bull...., and if it affects you, it affects your children. The court has seen guys like this before and they know how to handle them.
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