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some of you know daughter is graduating a year early.... she's only 16... has a 3.5 and made 1940 on SAT... with all that said... she has a lot of growing up to do.... while she is very "book" smart... she's a spoiled brat who has NO clue about the world OR the common sense to find her way in it...... With that said, I would not let her "go off" to college..... she is going to a technical school for a year, live at home.. and then maybe if I see improvement... I will let her go... (some of you know the trouble she's been in.... reason for my concern).
Her dad isn't at all happy with this decision... he thinks "tech" schools are for losers who can't get accepted in Universities... (coming from a man that got his Masters degree online... Ohs...)... He has no clue about living with her as he's been gone for 5 years...
Our order states that he pays for half of her education (doesn't say I pay for half)....LOL.... I guess she can do studen loans.. (winks)... but I told him if he wanted to pay for 100% of the education.. then fine... figure it out.. I'm done fussing with him on this.... I told him if he thought she was ready for them to start doing applications for Dec/Jan enrollment... to knock themselves out but I was not paying a dime.... so we will see what happens.... She of course is so excited that I gave in that much.... (so clueless).... she is going to be in for a rude awakening... LOL!!
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I will say one thing about "tech" schools and that is that the credits are unlikely to transfer to the University. A Community College would be significantly better as the credits tend to transfer (like English, Math, Psych, etc...) and I would look at the University she wants to go to and see their recommendations.
If the tech school credits do not transfer (which is very likely the case) it will be a year "wasted" as far as credits go.
Just something to think about...
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btw: Don't knock online Master's degrees - if the Masters online is taken at a University (brick and mortar) then there is no difference in the degree. University of Phoenix is an exception - their online degrees are really expensive and not looked at very highly.
About half of one of my degrees is online and my degree and grade transcript will look no different then the person's who actually went to the same state school.
I have learned far more from the online component of my education then I ever learned in the classroom.
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Let me rephrase this..
she is going to a "University" at a tech school.... for example University of Texas... at a tech school through a bridge program... IF she graduated from this school, her degree would be from the "university" not the tech school... They have three major universities at the school, so her degree could be from University of [censored], xxxx University or bbb university.... with that said.. ALL the credits transfer as long as she stays within the bridge program.
The reason why I am doing this is because she can live at home.. whereas if she went to "University of [censored]" she would have to live on campus her freshman year... which I am not doing.
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LOL.. I'm not knocking it.. I am just discussing the irony of a man who thinks a University at a Techincal college is for losers but online is acceptable.. it's just funny to me... it's ironic... I mean... why didn't he get his masters from the University HE graduated from??
I fully support online AND technical colleges... I support ANY type of education.. Sorry you misunderstood the irony...
and btw.. he graduated in Masters of business from Univerity of Phoenix.. LOL!
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I have an online degree, and honestly, in the IT field, an online degree is respected.
Having DONE an online program, I will say that I think it is HARDER than an onsite class/degree program. First of all you have to have the self discipline to make sure you post to the threads regular, and finish your work on time. There is no set class time, so there is no guarantee that there will be a teacher to remind you to finish your work. Also, there is a LOT more papers to complete. I wrote, on average, 4 term papers per class over an eight week class.
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Good to know you did your homework - I have known too many people who's credits did not transfer because the went to ITT Tech, DeVry, etc...
Good Luck to your daughter - may this be an exciting new chapter in her life =)
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Devry credits WILL transfer to a Masters program, but it has to be at Keller Graduate School.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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I have to finish my one degree online because we moved and I wanted to finish the degree instead of just quitting.
Gr8 - yes I have found online harder because there is MORE work but I have also learned more from that work. Some people think you can sit and take a test at your leisure and cheat but all of my tests are proctored and have to be set up in advance.
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Have her get a job and/or volunteer and go to community college part time...give her some 'growing' room. Then the year after she can attend CC full-time.
Simply put...YOUR house, YOUR rules. When she turns 18, she can move out, get a job and pay her own way.
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If my husband asked me to stop posting here because he'd been contacted by someone from this board? I'd stop posting.
Quote "I have to take care of the family.... Hubs was contacted last night and with him in XXXXXX, it has put a huge strain on our marriage. No one outside my family is worth this stress, strain."
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"Regardless, my convo with the hubs did not go well....he us worried they have employer info, etc....he's very upset with me. Im not mad, I'm just done with almost this and everyone involved and I'm removing myself per hubs request."
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She is working part time now... she is responsible to an extent that a 16 year old is... you know?? When I went to college I was 18... I am totally fine with her going next year... just NOT now... not ready to cut the cord just yet. She is going to go full time, work part time... She can handle that... but just being 2 hours/3 hours away.. nope...
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Loretta,
Hope you are doing well. We are fine, thanks for your concerns. Hubs is cool with me posting as he understands what has happened to a full extent. Again, thanks for your concerns, but this really has nothing to do with the conversation. If you had a daughter 16 and ex was wanting her to go off but you didn't feel she was ready... what would you do... ?
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Loretta, that was kind of a cheap shot, don't you think?
I think everyone is capable of **knee jerk** reactions and since I know a lot more about this situation than you? If RWS says her hubs is okay with it, then I'd leave it at that.
Actually, I'd have never brought it up.
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ivehadit
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Just more Drama Loretta. Just ignore her as most try to do. She is so full of shyt. Nobody contacted her husband. Liar.
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I had never heard that her husband was cool with it. I'm glad he's not worried anymore. That's a relief. There's a lot said on here that *I* would not say. :)
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Glad he's not worried anymore, it must have freaked him out.
I would do what I was going to do. I trust my decisions. I know my children well, better than anyone.
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hubs isn't the topic of conversation, especially when one likes to post private text messages.. but with that said.. I do know my daughter best... and I feel it's best for her... hopefully in the next year she will grow some... and will be ready to take off... today, 2 months... I don't see it...
Hope you and the family are well.
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I think your idea is the most sensible, RWS -- I'd be totally not cool with a 16 year old leaving home, even if she had graduated......that's kinda scary.
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heck.. if she went to college, I would have to send man-child 2 with her (Rocketgirl has patent on man-child 1). We won't let her cook or do laundry... she'd burn the house down AND flood it at the same time...
I think it's a good plan.... I just hate we are not together on this.... makes it tough with graduation around the corner.
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Well, if she did it in the right order, she could cook the meal, start the fire and the flood would put it out.
Remember Towering Inferno????? Unless you've got a thousand gallon water tank in your attic that is......;o)
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Gr8dad,
I actually agree with you on the online program.. daughter did her HS last year online and it did take a lot of discipline... she did not get behind whereas my cousin's daughter did it and made 0's for the entire year... Daughter took English 4, Spanish 3 and Algebra 2 one block and then Gov't, Physical Science and Law Ed second block.
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Both kids are expected to do community college/trade school locally. I would not be OK with my 16 year old attending a college full time away from home. I wouldn't say, if you pay 100% go ahead and send her off where you think...especially to someone who has been out of her life for five years. My kids are in agreement with the deal. Community college, free room and board, work part time for pocket money OR move out, get a job and support yourself.
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^^^^^What she said.
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May I ask why your daughter decided to go online for HS - and what program you used? I am always trying to find solid HS info on secular programs.
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Em,
I am at basketball but will send you a pm later. If I post where. It will give more info then I care to give.
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Of course it would! You are such a hypocrite! So your child isn't as perfect as you would like the board to believe! Prego? Drugs? Drunk? Too many arrests? Yeah, that's what I thought! Coward!
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RWS...she called you a coward...(snicker)
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reilly you can pretend to not know the truth, but you do.
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What are her current plans for Aug/Sept ? Is she already enrolled at the tech bridge program to start then ?
How long was she home schooled/taking online classes ?
Was she enrolled in a B&M high school for any length of time ? Did she do AP classes online or 'regular' hs curriculum ?
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JL or Loretta......
"giving more info" is in regards to the ONLINE school she attended as EM asked... if I gave her the "name" of the school, it would give MORE info about my exact location then I care to give.
She's not perfect, Infact... I think i've been clear for 12+years that she is far from perfect... she's 16.....
Coward... that made me chuckle....
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LOL... I laughed out loud with that....
Too funny!!
thank God she's pregnant... at least she stopped doing the drugs for the baby's sake... >lol<
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What are her current plans for Aug/Sept ? Is she already enrolled at the tech bridge program to start then ?
-------->yes, in the honors program at the local "techical" college through a University Bridge program, paid for 100% by the state.
How long was she home schooled/taking online classes ?
-------------->Just her sophmore year. Freshman, reg school.... sophmore I pulled her out in Oct due to her failing Spanish III. I put her in online school with a tutor. She did online from Oct-June. Junior year, she advanced to a Senior (first week of school), but had to take 2 online courses to get all the workload in... childhood dev and Sociology
Was she enrolled in a B&M high school for any length of time ? Did she do AP classes online or 'regular' hs curriculum ?
--------------->yes... 2 and half years with her final year being at a B&M school (graduating from) and English was a college course 101, History was AP, Chemistry was reg, Calculus was College, Biology was college
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"yes, in the honors program at the local "techical" college through a University Bridge program, paid for 100% by the state."
This screams TROBLED TEENAGER!!! ADMIT IT YOU COWARD! YOU SUCKED AT BEING A MOTHER AND NOW THE STATE HAS TO PICK UP YOUR FVCKING SLACK! WHAY TO GO CARO.....LET THE TAX PAYERS PAY FOR YOUR DUMB FVKING MOTHERING....NO WONDER YOUR EX WON CUSTODY1
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This screams TROBLED TEENAGER!!! ADMIT IT YOU COWARD! YOU SUCKED AT BEING A MOTHER AND NOW THE STATE HAS TO PICK UP YOUR FVCKING SLACK! WHAY TO GO CARO.....LET THE TAX PAYERS PAY FOR YOUR DUMB FVKING MOTHERING..
-------------->LOL... it's called a lottery scholarship... seriously.. you are clueless... kid has x grades and lottery funds by the state pay for the college education... Depending on the grade depends on how much they pay... you have to have at least a 3.0 to get some funds.... are you seriously that stupid? wait... don't answer it... we all know the answer JL/Loretta.
..NO WONDER YOUR EX WON CUSTODY-------->really? when did this happen?? Good!! Maybe HE can pay for her now... phew... glad that's solved.
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RWS, I find myself a bit confused -- refresh my memory.
Wasn't it you that got custody of your daughter what? Not quite 6 years ago? When did custody go back to your ex? Hmm.....;o) I would have thought we were good enough friends for you to have told me that. **LOL**
Have you noted that spelling goes downhill with **shouting**? I mean, seriously, if you can't spell your cuss words right......**sigh**
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Actually I noticed that they kind of revert back to the "ebonics" ghetto mess... maybe it's the alcohol they drink throughout the day since they have NO JOB... Or maybe it's the "I'm so happy, everything is perfect individual" who is trying to make it look like someone else... OR it could be the two of them..... tag teaming... but WGAF... 1) I could care less about and 2) is just pissed because I wouldn't share private info after SHARING private info with them that went to hotmess #1....
But yeh... I forgot to mention the detail in the custody change along with the drugs and the pregnancy.... just slipped my mind you know?
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Giggled at "hot mess #1" :-).
Good luck whatever u decide for her.
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Thanks LB!
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I was going to say I hadn't heard about the drugs or the pregnancy either -- funny, she doesn't LOOK pregnant.....;o)
Your mind ain't what it used to be.
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[quote]"yes, in the honors program at the local "techical" college through a University Bridge program, paid for 100% by the state."
This screams TROBLED TEENAGER!!! ADMIT IT YOU COWARD! YOU SUCKED AT BEING A MOTHER AND NOW THE STATE HAS TO PICK UP YOUR FVCKING SLACK! WHAY TO GO CARO.....LET THE TAX PAYERS PAY FOR YOUR DUMB FVKING MOTHERING....NO WONDER YOUR EX WON CUSTODY1 [/quote]
Please learn proper spelling and grammar before you fling insults at another. It makes you look incompetent although I agree with your sentiment as well as Loretta's opinion about Caroline's husband being contacted by someone on this forum. Loretta is not the only person who's taken notice in Caroline's dramatic cry for help when an anonymous poster allegedly contacted her spouse. I believe her story holds as much weight as Suzanne's alleged cry. Are these women also liars and attention wh0res or is it only the posters who these women dislike attention wh0res for doing the same? Why, if I didn't know any better I would make the claim that Caroline and Suzanne are either A.) Liars themselves, or B.) Entirely too dumb to stop posting knowing their marriage may be on the line or their ex-spouse is lurking after every statement they post. My money is on the former.
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Knowing RWS as well as I do, I'd suggest that neither option applies to her.
Suzanne? Not sure to whom you're referring.
The use of first names? Hardly shocking when one of them has been known for quite some time.
Tiresome. However, I whole heartedly agree that spelling and grammar are very important when insulting another. One wouldn't want to misconstrue anything.
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[quote]Knowing RWS as well as I do, I'd suggest that neither option applies to her.
Suzanne? Not sure to whom you're referring.
The use of first names? Hardly shocking when one of them has been known for quite some time.
Tiresome. However, I whole heartedly agree that spelling and grammar are very important when insulting another. One wouldn't want to misconstrue anything. [/quote]
Jane you may want to consider searching for your credibility. I believe you lost it somewhere between your outrageous lies and your condescending tone. I will not banter back and forth with such an overly disguised wolf in sheep's clothing.
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Really? May I ask what lies I've told? Seems like a fair request to me.
My first name isn't exactly unknown either. Try again.
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Or is this just going to be another empty promise **turn your life upside down**?????
I was kind of looking forward to that actually, it would have to be more exciting to have stuff made up about me than what actually goes on in my personal version of a perfect but rather ordinary life.
Meaning no disrespect to others -- I don't cut and run. There's nothing you can say that would disturb me. Doesn't matter what you say really.
However, make very certain that what you think you can post that would **turn my life upside down** isn't something that's only known to one person -- which would then identify you.
Think VERY carefully.
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Hmm....you won't banter back and forth. Or perhaps you CAN'T banter back and forth with me. Kind of cowardly if you ask me, but hey, that's okay.
Is that perhaps because you don't scare me? Really, ladies, there's just not that much out there that's all that interesting about me.
Unlike **all of** you, if you post something that isn't true, all I have to do is say it isn't true and people believe me. Sorry you don't get that treatment.
However, if it floats your boat......knock yourselves out.
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[quote]JL or Loretta......
"giving more info" is in regards to the ONLINE school she attended as EM asked... if I gave her the "name" of the school, it would give MORE info about my exact location then I care to give.
She's not perfect, Infact... I think i've been clear for 12+years that she is far from perfect... she's 16.....
Coward... that made me chuckle.... [/quote]
RWS, you didn't appreciate being accused of being one of the trolls, neither do I. I am not any of them. I don't know who they are. I don't care who they are. Please, trolls, do not pm me with that info. Seriously. Take my name off the table please. I'm not in cahoots with anyone. I'm not a gang member, I'm not a liar and I'm not an immature child. I post under this name only. You know I have way too much going on to be this involved.
ETA: Oh and my family is fantastic, never been better. Today was rough, went to a funeral for a 43 year old. Spend the afternoon with her mother.
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[quote]"yes, in the honors program at the local "techical" college through a University Bridge program, paid for 100% by the state."
This screams TROBLED TEENAGER!!! ADMIT IT YOU COWARD! YOU SUCKED AT BEING A MOTHER AND NOW THE STATE HAS TO PICK UP YOUR FVCKING SLACK! WHAY TO GO CARO.....LET THE TAX PAYERS PAY FOR YOUR DUMB FVKING MOTHERING....NO WONDER YOUR EX WON CUSTODY1 [/quote]
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Oh, oh !
My son is getting free tuition at any state school too
(not as exciting as it sounds....tuitions are low, tuition fees aren't included and they are high)
Goes that make him a problem child too ?
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RWS,
I'd want to keep her close to home for now too. Sounds like she certainly has great potential and some solid accomplishments, but she's got a history of not focusing or needing help with her coursework. Combine that with being young and the temptations of living away at college with less supervision and that could be a recipe for disaster. It sounds like the program she is enrolled in is a great plan. Good luck to her.
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finz, I've never heard of the programs that either of you are describing -- I know my younger son finished high school online after he left my home and did very well.
He is now, however, reaping the dubious rewards of not having put effort into his schoolwork. BUT, he's doing well and turned himself around --
I guess that's all a parent can reasonably ask for.
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I am curious about something. NOT an insult, an actual question. If you were not going to allow her to continue to advance her studies in a college atomesphere, why di you allow her to accelerate her secondary school?
I am seriously asking this, I have only heard of accelerating HS in order to start college sooner.
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I would answer that it is extremely difficult NOT to. The fact is - there is a huge push to make sure everyone graduates and they've lowered the standards so much that almost any kid can graduate early if they want to. My cousin is considering just to get away from the "mean girls" atmosphere in HS. With online school you remove the biggest obstacle - scheduling. School set up their class schedules on the 4year plan and frequently make it impossible to double up by only offering 1 section at the same time as something else all kids at another level have to take that year e.g. the one section of freshman bio is offered at the same time as the 1 section of sophomore chemistry.
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I would make sure that going to a 2 year first doesn't disqualify her for 4 year scholarships (generally it does disqualify, but with graduating a year early, there may be some special rules).
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Not taking it as one...
If you recall, I think I said awhile back that she is not a "people" person... she doesn't like HS girls.... her mind works a lot differently then others (think of an aspergers kid)... She wanted to get out of HS and away from the "girls".... so I agreed on the condition that she would graduate AND then go to the technical school... we mutually agreed earlier this school year (like 2nd week of Sept). BUT... her dad started planting stuff in her head, etc..
I keep reminding her that we had an agreement... if I ever thought we would be here today where we are... I would of NEVER agreed to it and kept her in.. however, I would be concerned that she would drop out or just stop out of being so stubborn....
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Agreed, but going through a "University Center" or "bridge" program does not.. checked that out already.
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You know her best. If you know she isn't ready to be out of the nest, she isn't ready.
She has done a great job on her GPA and test scores. If she needs to cook a little more in other areas before getting out in the world, no big deal.
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Thanks Arden.... however according to her dad... her grades and SAT suck... he asked me for the link login info.. which I gave... so he started looking around and a 3.5 is terrible considering you can NOW get a 4.87 GPA (he doesn't understand weighted/unweighted and I'm blue from trying to explain) and the SAT is horrible considering that she could of gotten a 2400... I've spent the past 2 hours crying... Of course, if she was in his home it would of been different... amazing even after having custody, I am still beaten up.... I'm so tired....course hubs wants to know WHY a week before graduation he's now INVOLVED?? He has said now with her grades he won't pay for college (as if he's ever paid for a flippin thing) and of course, hubs has said... "we will figure it out".... God love that man....
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LexieBelle
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I wouldn't worry about it RWS. He's just finding reasons to excuse HIS behavior.. and you're the easiest target.
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Runs, don't sweat his bull***. Your kid doesn't have to be perfect - just HAPPY. Something her father apparently isn't or he would be celebrating and encouraging her, instead of being a miserable, condescending jackass.
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gr8Dad
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I don't think it is fair to call him names or insult him because he has a different plan in mind for the child. Lets be honest, he is not suggesting that she go on the road with Pearl Jam or become a crack wh0re, mere that she start in an educational path that RWS disagrees with.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Runswithscissors
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Actually there is an update that Javajunkiee is referring to..... he's now not going to pay for any of her education (books not covered) and basically has said her GPA and SAT scores were horrible for the state... not understanding weight/unweighted stuff.... Javajunkiee is referring to that.....
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Have you looked into Americorps type of thing for a year? So its a job, but one thats only good toward college scholarship. I like that more than the McJobs, because teenagers sometimes convince themselves they'd be better off working instead of staying in school. Kind of big fish in a little pond syndrome.
Thanks for the info. Not sure what we will do, but between our moving all the time and my total lack of patience with the "mean girls" competition rampant at every high school I have dealt with in the last 5 years - I don't see typical high school in my kids future.
As for your ex, nothing I hate more than stupid people who think they know it all. I hope he falls on a bicycle missing a seat.
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Runswithscissors
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She has "scholarships" right now... if she keeps her grades up at the UC, then they will continue over to the Major University.
In regards to the ex..I don't wish the man any harm... I just wish he had dad'd up 5+ years ago and NOT one week before graduation....
In Jan, I sent him 5 texts and 4 emails on SATs and colleges..etc.. NO response... in March, I sent him 3 emails.... HELL three weeks ago, I sent him an email about prom/graduation and plans... NO response... but TODAY I've had 14 text messages and 5 emails.... REALLY? My first knee jerk reaction is NOT to respond... but see... I can't NOT respond... it's wrong...it's hurtful and I do.... I can't Ignore the man, her father.... BUT.. when I tell him that last week I spent 143.00 on a tire and today 236.43 on her CAR for a resistor for the air condition....all I get are crickets... I'm over it.
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I guess my first thought was - how the f*ck are you supposed to teach your kid to use time management, plan your life don't sit back and let it happen to you etc. when her FATHER acts like high school started 2 weeks ago and is just now in the game. THAT ticks me off. Because I have spent the better part of the last 6 years trying to reverse that ingrained thought process with minimal results. And pretending to not understand the GPA thing is just ridiculous. And if he really doesn't understand it - well then he's too stupid to be arguing over his kids college choices.
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[quote]finz, I've never heard of the programs that either of you are describing -- I know my younger son finished high school online after he left my home and did very well.
He is now, however, reaping the dubious rewards of not having put effort into his schoolwork. BUT, he's doing well and turned himself around --
I guess that's all a parent can reasonably ask for. [/quote]
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I only know about RWS's dd's bridge program what she has said here.
In Mass, all kids take a state standardized test in 4th,6th,8th, and 10th grade. If they don't pass the 10th grade ones they don't get to graduate. This is Massachusetts attempt at making sure kids don't graduate who can't read/have learned the basics. They get a specific score and fail, pass, proficient, or advanced in each subject. In Mass, if they get advanced in both math and english AND their individual scores are in the top 20% of their district, they get free tuition at any state school.
The state pays for it. Its is a merit, not need based scholarship. We will be taking advantage of it, but a lot of the scholarships go unclaimed. Poorer kids often can't afford the rest of the expenses. Richer kids and the super bright often choose private schools.
As an example, U Mass Amherst costs about $25,000/year for someone who lives in state. The 'free tuition' scholarship covers the $2,000 tuition. Then there's the $8,000 'tuition fee', then other fees and room and board, etc.
When I first heard about it, I thought "Woo-Hoo ! free tuition !" But it's really just $2,000 off the total $25,000 bill
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I'm with you, no way would I send my 16 year old away to college. This is why I would never allow the school to put her up a grade.
By trade school, do you mean a smaller college of a larger university? Like, in Oklahoma, there is Oklahoma State University in Stillwater. But, they have a smaller college in OKC called OSU-OKC. It's not the big university, but all part of the same, even though they each focus on different degrees. There's nothing wrong with either one, especially if credits will transfer.
BTW...I've been thinking about online school for Son, but worry about his self-motivation. How did your kiddo do with that?
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OSU in Stillwater, my mom graduated there!
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