KSDad76
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Loc: Kansas City, KS
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Hi,
I am new to this place. I have not ever posted on a divorce forum before. I am hoping someone can help me.
I have been divorced for 3 years. My ex and I were not married very long. We got married because she got pregnant. My family and I thought it was the right thing to do. Big mistake. She is very controlling and bossy and treats me like I should not even be involved in my baby girls life at all.
Our daughter just turned 4. Because of circumstances beyond my control I have not been able to keep up with child support. She thinks just because I owe her money that she can tell me what to do and treat me like crap.I have one other daughter too. She just does not seem to understand that being a single dad of two girls is not easy and I cannot always financially support them. I am a great father and try to be as involved as I can be, when I have time to.
I have always just had standard visitation and taken it when I could take it, but I think I should be allowed to have 50% visitation now that my youngest daughter has gotten a bit older and will be starting school soon. Her mom and I don't live in the same town but we aren't very far from each other and I think my daughter would like to be with me more. she is for sure a daddy's girl. I think any dad who is a good dad should have the right to have their kid more than just every other weekend, right? what do I have to do? Can I file myself or do I have to have a lawyer? Will having 50% custody lower my child support?
Also my mother just retired and I think she should be able to keep my youngest daughter every day instead of having to pay for daycare. My ex does not like this idea and I dont understand why. it would save both of us money. She never has liked my mom and we have had issues with her before but if it saves money it saves money. shouldnt I be able to let my mom watch her every day even on my exes days?
Thanks in advance for any advice. Oh, and we live in Kansas.
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Renny
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50/50 custody will not necessarily lower your child support, depending on your state of course. What matters more is who is the custodial parent.
With an arrearage in child support however you wouldn't want to start an action for modifiction of custody because a contempt action by her is guaranteed.
Good luck
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finz
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Same advice as in you identical post in the visitation forum......
You look too desperate JUST to lower your cs.
Your hopes of incresing your parenting time when you don't take all the time you currently have are slim.
If you and the ex have both had issues with your mom, you can hardly blame her for being reluctant to have your mom act as daycare. Just because it's free/cheaper, doesn't mean it's best for the child.
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SRS
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Reged: 11/05/10
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BUT, BUT having Mom to watch my kid is free. lol....
How about take all of your visitation and get caught up on your CS. Then, see about getting 50/50 custody.
Being a single Mom with a deadbeat who doesn't pay CS and doesn't see his kid...is hard too.
See the other board for more advice.
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