Alfred
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I have a complicated question. I have many married for 2 years during this marriage my wife has spent almost everything I have with exception for a securities account I had before our marriage and a house that I purchased with the proceeds from another house that was owned before our marriage. My wife has contributed very little financially to this marriage. Here are some stats.
I make 200K she makes 100K
I have 20K in checking account she has 30K in checking account
I have 70K in etrade account she has 10K in etrade account
I own a 100K dollar house that I paid 50K for in foreclosure and did all the work myself with no help from her.
She is leaving and she wants the 20K from my checking, she wants 5500 to move her things to California, She wants me to pay of her credit card of 2600. She wants me to pay 2000 dollars for her over baggage allowance on her flight home. She wants me to pay all cost for sending her two dogs home and she wants 2000 dollars a month for 9 months. Should I cave in and just give this too her or should I go to court?? Like I said her business has not suffered she has 40K liquid to be able to support herself thru this transition. I need help here. Not sure what to do and afraid that the courts in California will eat me alive. Also I am out of the country.
Thanks
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needmorehelp
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Yes - In my experience if this gets you out of the divorce and she signs an agreement to go for this then you might as well suck it up and get out.
An Attorney will cost you $10,000 if she contests the divorce, she is likely to get 50% of your assets.
Luckily no children are involved but you willhave to come back for the hearings ..more $$$$$
I'm afraid earning $200k means the 2K a month is affordable.
It is unlikely that she will get alimony after only 2 years and she is working, but my personal advice is bite the bullet. Tray and negotiate down the 20k to 10k which is 50%.
Sorry this has happened to you.
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Maury
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First, it is impossible to make any intelligent response without significantly more information to determine the cost-benefit of proceeding to court. You have a short term - 2 year marriage - which implies many of the assets you list have a non-marital characteristic to them. That means they are not divided or shared. Also, on a two year marriage where both parties have significant incomes, spousal support would be extremely unlikely.
Figure out what can be divided and what is likely to occur to assess your risk. Compare that against the cost of litigating. You then have a myriad of choices.
First, you can agree to her initial offer. However, do not act on that offer unless and until the divorce papers are signed, filed and entered by a court. Until then, the agreement is not binding.
Second, you may make a counter offer to better your deal.
THird, if you cannot agree, you can seek to mediate a resolution which is much less expensive than litigating.
Fourth, you can litigate.
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JBlackstone
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I'd have to agree with Maury, for such a short term marriage and the fact that she has a larger than normal income, I would find her demands excessive.
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yregna
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Alfred,
You should fight it...even the money you spend fighting will make you feel better. If you don't, you'll pay because hatred toward women as a species will take over your whole life.
I hope the sex was worth it...This woman is exactly in the same category as 80% of American women. Next time you are looking for a women, restrict your choice to the other 20%, and if you insist on attractiveness in a woman, your pool of candidates will be limited indeed.
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