blabbity
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Mom gave Dad 30 days notice of vacation, but no itinerary. She's gone out of state and has left no contact info and is now ignoring phone calls. Her new husband texted saying that their vacation time is uninterrupted and that efforts to contact the children via phone is harrassment.
Dad has already filed an order to show cause on other incidents of denial of visitation time and denial of phone contact with the kids. The court date is next month. Can dad add this in as another denial of phone time?
Does uninterrupted vacation time mean no phone calls as well as no visits?
Thanks!
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M5M5
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No, it does not mean no phone calls. My state actually has a thing called the NCP parental bill of rights...and listed in that is that each parent has the right to unimpeded phone calls with the kids no less than twice a week. Not sure if your state has something similar or not, but phone calls are definitely not included in the uninterrupted vacation time.
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gr8Dad
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Well, I will be honest, I remember when I was the NCP, and when I had the kids, she would call CONSTANTLY, upsetting them, etc. So now that I am the CP, I simply do not call. My son is in Texas right now for parenting time with his Mom, and if he needs me, he calls.
How old is the kid? I ask because the calls are REALLY for us, not them, they could care less about talking to us when they are with the other parent. Deal with it, enjoy the respite and do something for yourselves.
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blabbity
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The children are 6 and 8. Dad generally talks to them 1-2 times a week when they are at their mom's. He has standard visitation.
Two weeks seems like a long time for little kids to go without contact with one of their parents. Teenagers, I could see that long being okay... but not little kids.
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c_jane
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[quote].....they could care less about talking to us when they are with the other parent. Deal with it, enjoy the respite and do something for yourselves. [/quote]
That may be the case with YOUR kids but my son calls/texts/and yes, sneaks over to see me CONSTANTLY when at his Dad's. So far he's been at his Dad's almost a week and he and his cousin have ridden over to my house every.single.day to say hi, see the kittens, raid my pantry/fridge, and hang out for a few.
Sad that he has to SNEAK around to visit me on HIS DAD's TIME.
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gr8Dad
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"Sad that he has to SNEAK around to visit me on HIS DAD's TIME."
No, what is sad is that you SUPPORT lying to and sneak around his Dad. You are a piece of SH!T and a crappy parent who shouldn't be trusted with a GOLDFISH< much less a CHILD.
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c_jane
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He's not lying. Or really sneaking around I guess. Maybe I misphrased it. DS and C. go out to ride the minibike around the neighborhood and just 'happen' to end up at my house.
They just don't mention it to Exhole. It's just sad they can't be open and aboveboard with it.
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blabbity
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Well, Dad just called me. He got a call from his lawyer just now to talk about the order to show cause that they're working on. He asked about uninterrupted vacation time superceding phone calls. His lawyer said it doesn't. Phone calls are still allowed, and in fact encouraged, during vacation time. So, there it is.
I know that for some people two weeks without talking to their kids is no big deal. I would have a really hard time not talking to my kids for that long. I have sole custody of my two kids... I'd never in a million years think to deny their dad phone time. It just makes no sense to me :(
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Debi
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I ask because the calls are REALLY for us, not them, they could care less about talking to us when they are with the other parent.
Agreed. My kids were young when x and I divorced. In the beginning whoever didn't have the kids called every night at bedtime. (50/50 placement) It disolved our 3yo everytime. We came to the agreement that if the kids asked to call they certainly could but we would not make it a habit to call the kids anymore when they were with the other parent.
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