gr8Dad
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I have to disagree, the parenting time schedule has NOTHING to do with the comfort of the ADULTS in the situation, and EVERYTHING to do with the kids. Turning down a schedule because YOU are not comfortable with it is wrong.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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ssmom79
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So I assume you are aware how hard it must be for the parent who is limited to seeing their child every other weekend....the ones who don't choose divorce? Nah, probably not. Better be OK goin 6 or 7 days without your kid, wow, how about what's best for your kid?
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gr8Dad
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"So I assume you are aware how hard it must be for the parent who is limited to seeing their child every other weekend...."
As I was the NCP initially, yes, I am.
"Better be OK goin 6 or 7 days without your kid, wow, how about what's best for your kid?"
That was WHAT I SAID! I was saying that the PARENTS comfort is NOT important, it is the KIDS comfort that matters.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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ssmom79
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Sorry gr8 I QR'd. I was actually responding to Eve's comment about being very comfortable with the time apart.
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Virginia84
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Well let's add a new layer to this issue. Dad just had the kids Friday night through Sunday night this past weekend. First off, eldest DD was asked not to come back to the private care situation she was going to for daycare. This is the third day care situation she has been removed from this summer. She is diagnosed ADHD and undiagnosed Aspergers. I took them back early Sunday night so dad could go to work from 5 am -7 am Monday since he'll need to care for the oldest until we can secure care for her again elsewhere.
So cue the problem...dad feels like he can't handle both kids together on his weekends with them. I've asked him if he has another visitation schedule in mind and he doesn't, he just wants them "separated" somehow. So what am I to do? Is it wrong to insist a dad care for his kids for 6 overnight visits regardless of how proper he is able to parent them? He's definitely a competent adult, but struggles dealing with the oldest's behavior issues. The kids are 14 months apart too so the youngest feeds off the oldest at times.
I realize visitation is for the kids etc and shouldn't be about the parents. I feel like since I'm requesting bare bones for weekend visits (even will to do just Friday-Sunday night instead of Monday morning) I can rightfully stated, dude, I need my every other weekend break for respite if nothing else.
I honestly don't know of another visitation solution that will allow dad to see his kids (which he wants as do the kids and I don't want to take this from them) and not make dad pull out his hair. Isn't parenting "pulling out your hair" at times? It's just part of the ball of wax.
I don't know, this is exhausting.
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