ConnorsMom
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it's a long story, you can read it here:
[censored]://connorsmom.wordpress.com
or watch it here:
[censored]://[censored].youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4368D6D274DB8E7C&feature=view_all
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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gr8Dad
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Yeah, move back to Lubbock, stop being a two faced pain in the ASS, and start supporting yourself.
Funny how HIM getting the child and taking the child back to Lubbock from Grapevine is HORRIBLE, yet YOU taking the child from Lubbock to Grapevine was okay, isn't it?
Funny how you go to a GOTH/PUNK dating site, meet, marry and breed with a goth/punk guy...but NOW that same goth/punk attitude is bad for the child, so YOU should have custody.
Funny how you claim there is NOTHING to indicate that you are a FLIGHT RISK...well, except for the FACT that you DID flee with the child.
Funny how he LOCKED you out of the house you shared...yet it was available to you to come and get your stuff over a period of time. Sounds more like he let you come and go as you pleased, until you made it clear you were living far away.
BTW, by LAW, the divorce must be filed in the STATE OF RESIDENCY. Because you had not established LEGAL residency in Tarrant county (6 month living requirement), the divorce HAD to be filed in Lubbock (whatever county that is). HE did the right thing.
Of course, you can sit there and cry that he didn't know the Walmart you worked at...but WHY didn;t he know? Oh yeah, because YOU didn't tell him.
Funny how YOU allowing him to drive to YOUR location to see the child you share, when YOU say it is okay is "fair", yet him meeting you halfway now is "unfair".
Grow up, its NOT all about you.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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ConnorsMom
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yes, I understand that I did not go through the proper channels when I moved...I was in fear for my safety and that of my children, and I made a bad decision.
I never said his being punk was bad for the child. I was just giving background on my story. having drugs and weapons in the house, however...that's another story.
I moved away. I did not flee. I have a job and a place to live and all my family is right here around me. Why would I move again?
He had no idea I was moving. He locked me out because he didn't like me coming into "his home" when he wasn't there. I never even took anything of his, only my stuff.
BTW, I'm fully aware of the law that says divorce must be filed in the COUNTY of residency. Why do you think I hadn't filed yet? I was waiting for my 6 months.
It doesn't matter if he knew where I worked...a process server is supposed to check ID and get a signature...how is it in any way legal for someone else to receive and sign for my documents??
I offered to meet him halfway to see Connor; he just didn't contact me. Now he will only meet me halfway once a month, not every other week.
and another BTW...if you don't have something helpful to say, how about you f*ck off and keep your judgmental criticism to yourself? I'm well aware of the mistakes I made, but none of it justifies my son being removed from my home or speaks as to whether or not I am a good parent.
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gr8Dad
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"I was in fear for my safety and that of my children, and I made a bad decision."
Funny, in the video you say you moved to be closer to "family".
"I moved away. I did not flee."
Wait, wait, I thought you were in FEAR for your SAFETY? Now you just moved, got it.
"He had no idea I was moving."
Exactly, that is called FLEEING.
"He locked me out because he didn't like me coming into "his home" when he wasn't there. I never even took anything of his, only my stuff."
So, does he have a key to your current residence? I would guess NO< because you don;t want him in there when you are not home...but for HIM, that is wrong.
"BTW, I'm fully aware of the law that says divorce must be filed in the COUNTY of residency. Why do you think I hadn't filed yet? I was waiting for my 6 months."
Ah, so YOU were trying to wait until you could file in a county HE doesn't live in anymore...and are mad that HE filed in a county where YOU don't live anymore...got it.
"It doesn't matter if he knew where I worked...a process server is supposed to check ID and get a signature...how is it in any way legal for someone else to receive and sign for my documents??"
Not sure how that happened.
"I offered to meet him halfway to see Connor; he just didn't contact me. Now he will only meet me halfway once a month, not every other week."
Why the HELL should he have to pay for extra GAS, because YOU decided to move? Oh, and where did YOU drive to to meet him when the child was with you?
"and another BTW...if you don't have something helpful to say, how about you f*ck off and keep your judgmental criticism to yourself?"
Say what you want, I am a custodial father who gained custody in Wichita County, Texas, you might want to hear what I have to say.
"I'm well aware of the mistakes I made, but none of it justifies my son being removed from my home or speaks as to whether or not I am a good parent."
Moving away and expecting him to not see the kids as often is a pretty bad thing.
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Sherron
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"and another BTW...if you don't have something helpful to say, how about you f*ck off and keep your judgmental criticism to yourself?"
I thought you were mostly interested in donations. Not one of gr8's biggest fans, but I do have to give him credit for looking past the "donations can be made through paypal using this email address" line.
You need a lawyer, which means you need money, I get that. Your question should be, how can I make that happen, not how can I get others to pay for it. You are surrounded by family, ask them to for help to watch your 11yr old so you can get a 2nd and 3rd job to make this happen. This is important to you? Then do what it takes. Show your 11yr old what you're willing to do to get your family back together. Good luck.
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ConnorsMom
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"Why the HELL should he have to pay for extra GAS, because YOU decided to move? Oh, and where did YOU drive to to meet him when the child was with you?"
As I said before, I offered to meet him halfway, but he never contacted me to arrange visitation.
"So, does he have a key to your current residence? I would guess NO< because you don;t want him in there when you are not home...but for HIM, that is wrong."
actually, when I was living in Lubbock, he had a key to my home. after the domestic violence incident, I didn't feel safe even having him know where I lived. Also, I don't have any of his things, so he has no reason to have access to my current residence.
"Not sure how that happened."
why does everyone just pass over that like it's no big deal?? If I had been served in the first place, I would have been able to retain a lawyer and show up for the hearing, and I might not be dealing with this right now.
"Moving away and expecting him to not see the kids as often is a pretty bad thing."
Only one of my children is his. He treated my daughter like sh*t the whole time we were together. that's one of the many reasons I left him. The man is a DRUG DEALER. I like how you passed over that too. he's mentally unstable and not equipped to care for a child. the only reason he's getting by now is because his mom watches my son, feeds the both of them, and does his laundry.
I get what you're saying...I do...but I don't think you understand who my husband is. I didn't even understand it fully until I left him and discovered what kind of person he really was.
I'm a mother, and I love my children more than life itself. My daughter misses her brother and I miss my son. I just want him back. I tried to offer 50/50 custody at the mediation, but he wouldn't even consider it. He is pissed off because I left him and because I'm seeing someone else, and he's using my child to get back at me. my CHILD. it's not right, and I won't give up until I get my son back.
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ConnorsMom
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"You need a lawyer, which means you need money, I get that. Your question should be, how can I make that happen, not how can I get others to pay for it. You are surrounded by family, ask them to for help to watch your 11yr old so you can get a 2nd and 3rd job to make this happen. This is important to you? Then do what it takes. Show your 11yr old what you're willing to do to get your family back together. Good luck."
I need a lawyer within the next 1-2 weeks. I could get 5 jobs and it wouldn't help me come up with a $2000 (minimum) retainer in the next few days. I'm currently trying to file for a continuance so I can get the money together to retain counsel. I've been selling my belongings and doing side jobs for extra money. I've been making phone calls trying to find a lawyer who will work with me on the financial end. don't assume I'm just asking for handouts. People asked me about donating money, which is why I included the option to donate through paypal.
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M5M5
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I didn't listen to your whole story (too many distractions right now), but I will say one thing...you will need proof of his being a drug user/dealer for it to hold any weight in court.
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ConnorsMom
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yeah..that's the problem...I sent pics to his dad thinking I was doing "the right thing" and trying to help him...but that was just a "heads up" for him to get rid of evidence. and the people he sold to are not likely to testify against him.
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ConnorsMom
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He does have an arrest on record for possession...but it was a few years ago...he passed the drug test CPS gave him.
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