cbr0110
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Long story short I found out I had a 12yrd daughter, my EX was collecting welfare about 8 years ago but not now. I was hit with full back child support but my EX wants to work out a deal, is she even capable of dropping the back child support at this time? I have been paying since I found out 5 months ago. By the way the case is out of CA
thanks
Edited by cbr0110 (08/14/12 04:43 PM)
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annieo
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The only thing I know is that you will have to pay back the welfare she received for your daughter at the amount that your child support would have been based on - if you amount was less then the state payed for your daughter you will pay that amount if it was more then you will pay that amount and the additional will go to the childs mother as in if your amount was say 425/m and the state paid her 358/m the state takes the 358/m to pay themselves back and the 67/m overage goes to the mother and they generally pay the mother back first and then themselves but this is how Washington state works - I don't know if CA is the same. If your amount is 300/m and the state paid the mother 358/m you only pay the 300/m for the state to pay themselves back. Your current monthly support will go to mom and the state will collect a percentage towards the back child support.
People who collect welfare or TANF generally believe it is "free" money but it is not - the paying parent gets left holding the bag in cases like yours. The state doesn't give a rats a$$ that you didn't know about the child.
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cbr0110
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Thanks for input to say the least I was a little shocked the state was going for all the years I didnt even know I had a daughter. Already did DNA and its mine. Every month I have received a statement im in shock at what they expect me to pay.
Guess ill try talking to the mom and she if she can ask the state to drop the back child support. This whole system is beyond screwed up, just found out my passport has been frozen.
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finz
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Neither you or the baby momma can just ask the state to drop back child support that pays the state back for what they gave her to support the kid.
If she 'forgot' to mention to you that you even have a kid, for 12 years, I'd worry she'd try to scam you with a line like "Sure, just pay me $5,000 instead of the $10,000 the state says you owe and we'll call it even and I'll tell the state to forget about it" You could screw yourself by giving her cash, that she says was a gift, and YOU are still on the hook with the state. Don't go there.
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Avaya
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That IS completely screwed up! Sorry!
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hanzblinx
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This reminds me to send a thank you card to the guy who did my vasectomy. It's really disturbing that the mother would wait 12 years to inform the father of his child. What did she tell the daughter about her father all those years? Lies I suppose.
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Debi
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He said the mother was on welfare 8 years ago, but not now. That means the state has been looking for him for that long. They didn't just say "Oh yeah here is this case from 8 years ago.......lets go find the guy now so we can get our money". So why is everyone just saying they can't believe the mother didn't tell him? Why is no one asking why the state couldn't find him? If they couldn't then it's likely SHE couldn't either.
To the OP.....Nothing is going to be dropped. the money isn't going to her. It's going to the state to pay them back for the money they gave her 8 years ago.
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