jlskestrel93
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I'm new here, so forgive me if I'm not in the right forum. My husband and I had been having a lot of problems for awhile, but we were always vocal about really loving each other. About a month and a half ago I had an accidental pregnancy, it caused a huge fight, he through me out and held my dog hostage until I filed for divorce and got an abortion (no judging please, I was already in agreement about that though, he didn't force me). We have always loved each other and been very attracted to each other, so after a couple weeks we tried to be friends.
We were still sleeping together, but we were just trying to be friends. Well literally hours after the last time we were together he meets someone else, then the next day texts me "goodbye" and then on the phone says she makes him happier than I ever did (at this point, this was 2 days into their relationship).
She has a child, about 6. He informed me the other day that he'd already met the kid, after less than a week! I'm sorry, I try not to judge other parents, but who does that? He's not even divorced yet! She doesn't even know him. He is a verbally abusive alcoholic, but for all she knows he could be a child abuser.
He literally had no down time between saying he still loved me and moving on. Can this possibly be healthy? I know I should forget him and move on with my life, and I am. But it's only been a week since he met her, it takes time.
Has anyone been in a similar situation (I mean they or their partner moved on and joined a new family so quickly)? And if so, how did it work out? Thank you for listening to my rant.
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finz
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It doesn't matter how his new relationship works out. He's made it clear that he has moved on......you should too.
You sound angry about the new woman and her actions. You should be mad at your ex....and yourself for putting up with crappy treatment. In an ideal world, someday you'll be thanking her for taking out the trash.
Focus on yourself now. Don't waste time with 'what ifs' and wondering about him/them.
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HppL
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I have to say it happens daily! My ex had his GF now wife in his mind before we split. I got angry at first like your doing and then you realize its over and its the best for you. You said he was verbally abusive, then leave. Its hard to leave trust me after 18 years of abuse I finally left it doesn't matter what form it is . You need to find someone that you can share things with and deserve to be treated better,move forward and never look back. Don't beat your self up for someone Else's mistakes. Good luck.
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SRS
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A leopard doesn't change his spots. Once a cheat always a cheat.
Move on with your life and thank God that you didn't have children with him.
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