Milspouse
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My husband who's an Air Force Colonel having sex with a married civilian co worker in his office. What would happen to him if his boss finds out?
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elliesmom
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Honestly - probably nothing.
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Milspouse
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That's really sad.
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Milspouse
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I was hoping he would be relocated somewhere else at least.
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finz
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Before thinking about how much trouble you can make for him, consider how much it will affect you.
If he were to get fired, his lower income will affect your household.
Do you want to see him relocated to punish him ? Or do you want to see him seperated from his lover ?
Are you going to try to work things out ? Or are you planning on divorcing him ?
Do you have kids ?
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SRS
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See if he is willing to work things out with you, if not dump him. Move on.
Life is too short to spend pining for someone who isn't worth it....
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Milspouse
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We have 2 girls 16 and 11. I'm not sure what I want really, I just want the hurt to stop. I want him to see what he's doing is hurting us. I also have this feeling that I can't let them get away with it!!!
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Milspouse
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I want to see him seperated from his lover and want to see him punished for what he's doing.
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finz
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I can see WANTING those things......doesn't mean it's reasonable to expect that you will get them.
Knowledge of this situation could be very new to you and your emotions may be very raw. Try to think about this rationally, not with the fury you probably are feeling. If the AF moves him to seperate them......are you going to stay with him and have a happy marriage ? I couldn't be happy with a man who didn't CHOOSE me. I don't want him to settle for me because I made sure he was seperated from the lover he chose over me.
Any other repurcussions from the AF could also affect his pay rate/promotion potential. That could affect your family financially.....whether you stay with him or not.
Think about those issues before acting on the impulse for vengence.
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yregna
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Milspouse,
You sound like you expect to have sexual slavery rights over your husband. Why do women want to own another human being ? You pretty much own the two kids, why can't bossing them around be enough for your ego ?
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