shakenup
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I've tried everything. I don't want to be divorced. I've been through so many phases. And now I'm in this one. and I initiated it. for the best. So paralyzed.
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Bubba123
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There are probably countless reasons you initiated the divorce. You are in the denial stage of grief over the lost relationship. The reasons you began this process are still there. Stopping the divorce only returns you to the same bad place you began. Stick to the decision despite how hard it is unless you are convinced that circumstances at home will change!
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JoJoMan
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Loc: Houston, TX
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I understand. I worked really hard too. Through it all, one consant helps me feel I did the right thing. The reason we got divorced was there when our relationship first started. We were unable to communicate and find common ground to work on the marriage. She was unwilling to work on it, or deal with any conflict, plain and simple, and that was there when we forst got together. Expecting it to change, even now, after years of marriage, is an unrealistic expectation.
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Muhammad
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The thing with divorce is that it has many negative effects in the body. Women often become so worried and stressed out from the divorce that they do not realize the constant harm it brings to their body. And eventually you turn from a loving, trusting person to a mean bitter person. That is what Divorce should not do. You should not let divorce change you but see divorce as an opportunity to change yourself. There was a very intelligent book written by Barbara Williams on Divorce and how to avoid self-critiquing thoughts and reprogram your conscious. This book is a very informative and insightful book on why men are able to better cope with divorce than women. But mainly it guides and tells women how and why it is so important to take care of yourself during this vulnerable phase. It is very easy to lose sight during this time and do harmful damage to your mental health and to feed your conscious negative thoughts daily. I was criticizing myself so much after the divorce which resulted in very lowself-esteem and an altered sense of reality. I was being beaten down by my own inner conscious daily which put negative feelings in my body. You can visit the link for more information. [censored]://[censored].amazon.com/dp/B0090OOMLU
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rainbow316
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I understand how you feel and feel your pain. I also initiated because he left me no choice. It helps when you recognize the stage that you're in. I promise you will come out at the end a stronger and more independent person. I found a great book on Smashwords.com called The Best That Never Was by Erica Joy that helped me tremendously. Hope it helps.
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Elaine85
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What are the stages? I'm tired and lonely. I like being around people but I lost the friends in the divorce. Finding out I don't enjoy my own company. I cry, and want this over. There are also 2 young children involved. I want him out of my life completely so I can have one but this isn't going to be over for a long time.His hate and venom is so strong, I feel it in me
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