sterling17
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I'll try to sum this up the best I can. My wife of about a year cheating on me and now we're seperated(it's been a year). The group of friends I have now were originally my wife's friends and while married we all became tight. After my wife left her she dis-associated herselff from this group of people. Most everyone tended to see my side as I was the one who was cheated on. So, now it's been a year and I am starting to see (by means of facebook) that my ex is 'Liking' alot of things on my friends' FB page. So at a get together the other night I overheard my buddy's wife talking about my ex and her partner's biking races. It indeed bothered me as I am foreseeing that my ex & her partner(whom at one point I was friends with - which makes this situation ever more crappy) are slowly creeping back into the lives of these set of friends. I have endured an enormous amount of pain due to this & it now seems thta my pain is of no consequence to my so called friends. I know my perspective on this is from a completely differerent view, but I am NOT going to just act like it doesn't bother me. I want to slowly distance myself from this group of friends, but I know by doing so I am making it much easier for my ex and her guy to become tight with these people. In the end this is going to make me even more pissed off. I can't seem to get away from this crap. I hate those two and I try so hard to move past what they did.
I am asking for another perspective from anyone who can give an unbiased opinion.
Thanks.
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Debi
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Unfortunately your friends have the right to their own opinions. While I'm sure they understand your POV, you can't expect them to be as emotionally invoved in the hatred as you are. I always feel in these type of situations one person generally takes a step back. if you don't feel it should be you then hold your ground and see what happens. If they stop inviting her to things then you will know.
Even if some of the group have nothing to do with her there will be others who will remain her friend. I would say if the get together is at the home of one of those people then bow out gracefully and wait for the next one.
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