AMandolin
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My husband filed for divorce on March 11th without telling me or even asking for my signature. He was mad at me for contacting his 1sgt and Chaplain to try and get him some help, I think he's depressed. Last night, he brought me the paperwork, I have to sign the summons and file a response. I do not want to mark that I agree that our marriage is irretrievably broken, because I do not believe it is.. Does anyone know what would happen in Colorado Springs, if my response were to say that I do not agree with this divorce because I do not believe our marriage is irretrievably broken? (there is more background in my other post...)
We cannot afford lawyers, that's just the way it is.
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elliesmom
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Whether you agree or not he can (and likely will) get the divorce granted. It will just take longer.
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AMandolin
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Yes, but what I mean is, would they put us through marriage counseling? Or would it just literally take longer...
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elliesmom
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It would literally just take longer. They don't force people into counseling, because that is rarely effective when one party doesn't want to be there.
Basically if you don't consent he has to file a contested divorce and at the hearing he will argue the marriage is broken and judges usually rubber stamp that.
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elliesmom
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I think you should really stop and think what are you holding onto here. A guy who can go from I love you more than anything to throwing everything away in 24 hrs? How could ever feel secure in this relationship again? Or bring a child into it? Apparently he is good at putting on a show and lying - how will you know if it is ever real again?
Maybe you should go to counseling alone. If nothing else they may be able to help you talk to him in the most productive way as you navigate through the process of divorce or reconciliation.
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AMandolin
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It's hard to let go of what I know we have... It's a long story and there's no way for you to understand the dynamic of our relationship, but I don't think you just throw marriages away. You make a VOW, that means something. I think he needs counseling, I think we would both need to go to counseling together as well. I can't say that I would be able to trust him again, but I do love him, and I'd be willing to try. I believe if you love eachother, you can work through anything. And I know deep down, he loves me. Also, I have been doing some counseling on my own since he broke the news 13 days ago. In all of this, I do want to be healthy myself.
Edited by AMandolin (03/20/13 10:36 AM)
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