jmbbillsfan30
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i am just trying to get some opinions of where i stand. i have a lawyer and have filed divorce papers just waiting to have her served, they have to wait cause she is in a inpatient rehab for the 4th time in about 6 months. she has filed for spousal support claiming i hide income, which i am self employed and but i have bank records showing every transaction. Just not very good at keeping all receipts.
that kinda told you what is going on presently, what has led up to this point is we have been together for 14 yrs married 7 but separated the past yr. she has had a drug problem for almost 5 yrs when she got convicted of a felony for forging scripts for vicodin. i stayed with her to help her get better and try and make our marriage work. but she started not coming home at night, she lost her job about 6 months before we split ( she does have a bachlors degree and was the breadwinner) because of performance issues she started getting into harder and harder stuff and eventually well we were apart got hooked on injecting heroin. when we separtated we divided everything as equal as possible we had one newer car that was in my name only and still had payments i took that because she said she couldn’t afford it, that left her with a minivan that was older but no payment (that car still in my name too) she choose to sell it for drug money, and over time almost everything of value was either sold or stolen inc a car that she had bought after we were apart and that i put $1000 into to help fix it. Now she says she worked her whole life and has nothing, and now wants me to pay her to live. I also must note we have 2 children that have lived with me since we separated but I didn’t go after her for child support till about 6 months into our separation. When I did I was only awarded $11 a week because she only makes $250/wk on unemployment. Which she is still behind on and has never been up to date on. I know some of it sounds like rambling but there is so much I wanted to put. Just looking for any input or has anyone ever went through anything like this. She will and has lied and manipulated people inc myself into thinking she is clean when she isn’t. what advise can you give me. I really don’t want to talk to my lawyer as he charges me and I am struggling for money as it is. Thank you in advance for any thoughts.
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MinnesotaMom
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$44 support/month on $1000 doesn't sound right. It would be around $300 in mine in most cases. What is your custody agreement?
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jmbbillsfan30
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its because if she doesnt make at least $280 a wk then they give her the min that is allowed which is $50 month it is actually $11.34 a wk but that doesnt even cover school lunches! not to mentiion my one daughter is 13 and is very expensive like all teenagers are. i have temporary custody right now because i caught her shooting up in my bathroom with 2 children unattended ages 6 and 3 (not my kids) but my kids have lived with me since april of 2012 when we separated. she is filling claims that have lies in them and im just not sure how to defend a drug addicted liar. my lawyer says i have nothing to worry about but still very worried. any reasuring thoughs would be a great help!
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MinnesotaMom
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Listen to your lawyer. They are going to have a better handle on your situation than anyone here.
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I'm trying to sort this out so bear with me. You have been together 14 years, married 7 and she has been unemployed for about 18 months? Prior to that she was the bread winner. She is currently unemployed due to her own actions (drug abuse) and she could be gainfully employed if it weren't for the drugs. She has you supporting the kids alone ($50 a month is you doing it alone) and now she wants SS?????
Some of it will depend on your state but I would certainly use every scrap you have to fight it. She's not disabled, she's not unemployable by reasons out of her control....she's a selfish @ss. Tell your lawyer to point out that any money given to her is going to be taken from raising your kids and that she is not going to have any better luck kicking her habit while living off you as she is on her own. It may seem mean as she is the mother of your kids but I would point out that pesky addiction issue at every single turn.
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