tombob
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Going to trial next month. In a nutshell... I paid for ex's bachelors & masters but she purposely hasn't found work because she has planned this divorce for years & wants maintenance. We were married 13 years, no kids. I found a savings account in her daughters name that the judge knows about & was NOT pleased about. In addition, I've since found where the real money is- the ex has been socking away about $1,000 a month now since at least 2006 and didn't disclose it. Judge hasn't seen this one yet. I make 100k, ex makes 10k but would earn 50k if she applied for work. Will these hidden accounts help the judge to decide that maintenance for a woman with a Masters degree that set this whole thing up FOR YEARS... may not be just in this case? The ex & her lawyer are after 4.5 years of $2,000/month maintenance. Thanks for any experience or input you may have for me.
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MinnesotaMom
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How many years were you married? $2000 a month for 4.5 years may or may not be reasonable. As for the "hidden" money, it's more than likely going to be 1/2 yours. 7 years x $1K/month = about $84K.
I might try to negotiate she keep the cash and forgo alimony forever, but it depends on your state.
Most importantly, what does your attorney say?
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gr8Dad
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Why does everyone think its logical to split the assets down the middle, and then give one side a check from the OTHER side?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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MinnesotaMom
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It's not logical at all....but it's a typical family law decision.
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tombob
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She has had her degree for 5 years... always made excuses why it wasn't time to go to work yet (I haven't stolen enough from you yet was never mentioned as one) I was just wondering, other than destroying her credibility with the judge... will a judge be likely to deny the maintenance requested, especially if I can prove there have been MANY job openings in her field that she hasn't even applied for?
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MinnesotaMom
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It depends on the state. In some, her ability to earn $50K negates alimony. In others, your $100K vs $50K would result in alimony. In yet others, they will use your $100K and her $10K.
Again, what does your attorney say?
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tombob
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I'm meeting with my attorney next week a couple days before our pre-trial hearing. I'm going to ask her to present my situation to me as though I were the judge so that I'm sure she understands the situation from all points. I put a TON of time & effort into getting to the truth about our finances, etc and have a pretty good handle on all the ways my ex hid money, purposely refused to get a job, etc, and has planned this divorce since at least 2006. Pretrail & trial are in the next couple weeks- I'm ready. I just wanted to know if anyone had experience with an ex hiding a lot of money in various places and being dishonest about it & how that played out in the judges ruling in their case. I'll soon have my own experience, every situation is different anyhow.
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mrponder
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I am in much the same situation. Having recently finished school, I was served with papers and my wife is going after everything she can get (mainly my future income). I have yet to hear any real numbers. My wife has an education and training, but is making the case that she needs support in order to get more than a minimum wage job.
Anyone have experience with this - a spouse who has an education but wants to use a divorce to switch careers on someone else's dime?
Also, good point about asking your lawyer to present your case to you. I'll remember that next time I meet with mine.
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