faeries7
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I currently live in California, but the summer of 2014 I'd like to move to Montana. I'll be moving to be near family and a better (more affordable) living situation. I currently have joint custody of my 10 year old son. His father sees him maybe once a month and has no contact with him other than that one weekend a month. He has our phone number but won't call my son. The only way I know if he plans on seeing my son at all is if he emails me and asks to take my son for a weekend. In fact, there've been times when he's gone 2 months or more without any contact at all. I've saved every email my ex has sent me in case I have need of them. My question is, what are the chances of a judge not allowing the move if my ex decides to fight me? And 2, what steps do I take next (How soon do I notify him? Do I have to send something to the court also? Etc.)? I can't seem to find anything online. Thank you for any help.
Edited by faeries7 (04/02/13 11:31 AM)
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c_jane
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You should have a clause in your original divorce decree/custody order that addresses moving. It will usually be a 30-60 day notification period to the other party OR as soon as you know you will be moving. This is to give the other party time to respond/object. Check your paperwork.
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finz
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Talk to your ex and find out his thoughts on your potential move.
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gr8Dad
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Board advice is that moving away is ALWAYS a bad idea and you shouldn't do it. Oh, wait, your a FEMALE, so moving away is fine.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Goodmom
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[quote]Board advice is that moving away is ALWAYS a bad idea and you shouldn't do it. Oh, wait, your a FEMALE, so moving away is fine. [/quote]
BAER.
She would have gotten different advice if the father was more involved. But he's not. By his choice.
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Goodmom
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Given that your ex really isn't that involved, you may get a judge to agree with your move. You may even be able to get your ex to agree to the move. I would have a parenting plan in place first that is signed off by a judge.
Oh, and since you are the one moving away, you should be the one paying the travel costs. You may want to consult with an attorney in your area, s/he would be able to give you more specific advice.
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gr8Dad
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Bullsh!t, MEN are told to NEVER move away, and women are told they can do it, cut the SH!T and at least have the corage of conviction to back up your position.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Goodmom
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BULLSH@T right back at you.
I HAVE told mothers not to move. I do NOT support moving kids away from an ACTIVE and INVOLVED parent . In the OP's case the other parent is NOT either one.
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gr8Dad
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Why? Because the person who is trying to convince you what a POS her ex is TOLD you?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Goodmom
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[quote]Why? Because the person who is trying to convince you what a POS her ex is TOLD you? [/quote]
Because, unlike you, I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt.
And tend to ignore people who have a huge chip on their shoulder. Like you do.
Besides, of all of us on this board, the OP is the only one who knows what her ex is like and how often he sees the kid.
Now, if she isn't telling the truth, well, that will come out in court. Where it matters. Because it really doesn't matter here. We can only go by information given.
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